does anybody know anything about custody? the father of my 2 oldest kids broke up 2years ago and when we were together…

@mrsmoore, I'd say get a lawyer and do what you need to do for the safety of your kids. if you can prove all of this then he needs to have supervised visitation. every state is different but I'd definitely talk with someone about your options and what needs to be done so your kids and yourself since you said he makes threats against you as well.

Did they give you a paper? Because I have primary custody of my 4 yr old and even if you don't give a set schedule they put every 1,3,5 weekend for dad on there to go by in case you no longer agree.

I went to the district attorneys office and it was pretty easy there I never had to go to court

I can't prove it unless I let them go with him buy I don't want to take the risk of them getting hurt if he drinks or doesn't use the seats properly its hard to prove that the only video I have of him is him being drunk after driving to my house to beg for me back buy it doesn't show him driving @ftm0903

@mrsmoore, I'd still go and talk to someone and figure out what the laws are for your state and see about getting things figured out and maybe even changing what you have in place already.

@ak16, no we left with no papers at all the court date was really for paternity which he denied ,and we both agreed to joint sense we lived together and that was it now that we don't iv been told that that mean I have primary and sense he didn't tell the courts he left the home which they said to if him or I leave I'm still wondering where that leave this custody situation?

@ftm0903, I'll give that a try I tried before but he couldn't tell me right off hand or look it up even he wanted to just do court from there maybe I will go with somebody else ,is there away to even look it up yourself?

Ok if you have no papers then generally you have equal custody, which in most cases means either parents can "keep the kids" from the other until court papers... So I would do supervised visits until you get papers to be safe. At the attorney general office you can generally get an appt and they will tell you how much child support you will receive and then give him 1,3,5 weekend , and you can chose back child support or to not press for that.

@ak16, do I go to any kind of lawyer for that or does it have to be a attorney general office?could you explain what 1,3,5 weekend is

1st Friday of the month 6pm to sun 6pm

3rd fri of the month 6pm to sun pm

5 fri of the month 6pm to sun 6pm

Do your kids get Medicaid? If so the attorney office generally works with Medicaid. Lawyers are more expensive must of the times and no you have to go to a custody lawyer. What state do you live in I can look some stuff up if you want

I live in Wisconsin,and yes I believe their on medicaid, my dad wanted to pay a lawyer but I didn't feel he'd get Me what I asked when we met with him he was good ng to go for back pay for my dad and I sense my dad is my oldest guardian and every other weekend ,

@ak16,

Ok let me look and see what I can find

Here is a FAQ page http://cordellcordell.com/resources/wisconsin/wisconsin-child-custody-questions/

How is one site you can look for an attorney http://www.attorneys.com/child-custody/wisconsin/

But like I was saying earlier if they are on Medicaid. Call your Medicaid number and ask them if they can help you because that's how I got my daughters and it was all free and only took two appointments

@ak16, thank you so so much I will be looking into all of this 😊 very helpful advice

You're welcome hope you can get some papers it makes everything lots easier 😄