my "husband" decided the very next day after I had a miscarriage he wanted to visit his mother that…

wow he should've been there with you threw that' what's he think he's the only one in pain because of that. if anything you need him more then ever before to help you threw it. sorry I'm being a little mean towards him but that's not right at all.

@gvarra92, it's ok I think he will be alright lol he has been very mean and did not call or keep in touch so cold and distant so today I'm gonna have very lil to say lol

@pcgyea, good!

I miscarried my twins this past december and even though my husband NEVER left my side he didn't have much to say about it at all. A month after we lost the twins we were riding bikes and I was hit by an suv...he watched my lifeless body fly in the hair and hit the ground head first. My head busted open and he thought I was dead. Now were in counseling because the stress of these two situations put him in a really bad place to the point where he said he didn't want to be married. HE called our Pastor that married us July of last year. We've been going for 5 weeks. one thing I've learned is that men handle these situation A LOT different then we do...were different beings...and all this time I expected him to handle it like me, talk to me about it, be all up under me and share his feelings. In some cases thats not realistic. We both also found out why we werent getting along..both situations were traumatic and left an everlasting memory in our brain and when certain things are said and done they make us do crazy things. I'm not saying you don't have a right to be mad and that your feelings shouldn't be hurt BUT 2 wrongs don't make a right. Its tough being the bigger person in these types of situations especially when your hurting. Trust me I know...I told my pastor i was tired of being the bigger person....then she said look at the big picture...its not about me but about the love that God has joined together. Don't doubt that he's hurting but talk to him. Not in a mean way either...all this is coming from someone who use to GO OFF, CUSS AND SAY WHATEVER I WANTED until 4 weeks ago. Men don't know how to handle stuff...I encourage you to step up to the plate for your family...you both are hurting. share how you feel and if need be get help...if not together for yourself...my pastor counsels everyone and shes in la. I dont mean to be all up in your business but your post are sounding like me a few weeks ago! take care!

@cameryn_cameronsmom2016, Thank u for taking the time out to write to me I believe in God so I know we all need Grace on a daily but I also feel some people are better apart I had to sleep with a house full of family who I adore for "moving" in while he was absent I will be kind to him and listen to him but I basically have my mind made up that all I need is already with me my God and my family and even tho divorce is not apart of the bible I feel like he leads me away from Christ and I know everything will work out if I stay prayful have a blessed day mama

You gotta do what's best for u and yours but I just wanted to make sure it wasn't out of anger. only u know whats best for your family. no judgement over here! take care! :)