okay so I don't wanna sound ungrateful or selfish but my mother in law is makin me have two baby…
okay so I don't wanna sound ungrateful or selfish but my mother in law is makin me have two baby showers cause her and my family don't get along the best so I've been telling her what I want for the theme and color and how I wanted the invites to look being this is my first baby and she's a miracle and I probably won't have anymore after her I want everything to be perfect! but for some reason she's makin it all about herself and is doing everything I don't want to be done and its really starting to upset me! we were supposed to go together to get invites and instead she went by her self and picked these out! okay 1st they are for a boy are they not?? second they are just to plain! and third I told her and even sent her pics of the ones I wanted yet she said she didn't find any SHE liked but picked these ones out! ugh wtf is her deal! am i making this a bigger deal then I should? and should I not say anything about the invites I really don't want these invites at all and wanna go buy new ones ASAP! I just don't wanna sound ungrateful:(
Christina·
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I would definitely voice your concern, in a very polite way explaining why you want the others.
emismommy·
@calaboss, I'm going to try to she's Italian and very head strong as is and its usually her way or no way! hence why I didn't wanna have two and have her throw me one cause I knew this was gonna happen:( but I'm pretty sure she already has an idea that I'm not happy with them since I still haven't said anything to her about them! I feel bad and I'm so thankful for all she's doing but I still want things my way and perfect:\
Christina·
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I totally understand, it's like a wedding day is not about the mothers it's about the bride. It's about you and you're already caving in and letting her do a second one when you don't want it
Jennifer Nguyen·
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if she won't accept your answer or your wants and needs for YOUR baby shower, tell her you refuse to have one.
April·
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I would buy the ones you want and send them out yourself.
emismommy·
@calaboss, exactly I'm tryin so hard to stay calm and be nice about it but she's just being ridiculous about things! @aprilcgutkopf that's what I'm thinking about doing!! @ngujen since she's making me have two anyways I'm just not gonna invite a lot of my friends to the one she's throwing sadly that's how she's made it become and not everyone is gonna come to both ya know
April·
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That's what I would do. My boyfriends mom isn't throwing me a shower and his family isn't coming to the one my family is putting on for me. I would have had to have to too but my bio mom decided it was to much for her to have a baby shower for me.. It's what ever though! One is enough for me and I don't get along with my boyfriends family or my biological family anyways!
April·
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@emismommy,
emismommy·
ugh I just dont get her reasonings! like her daughter is a young teen mom and she got to throw her baby shower for her son who she pretty much raises so I'm just like u had ur time let me be apart of this now!
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I'll say sit back relax and let her do her...you don't have the energy and time to have baby shower drama before it begins. You're worrying about wrong invites? Don't make it a big deal because that's worries and stress you nor your unborn don't need to deal with. Sometimes you just have to let things go in order to be happy, calm and mellow. Enjoy both of your baby showers whether its not the specific color or invites you wanted just enjoy it and have fun. Life is too short to be worried about little things like that. As long as your baby comes into this world healthy and happy thats all that matters
emismommy·
like I said I wasn't Trying to be ungrateful or not thankful for all she's doing anyways we have just had our ups and downs a lot and it just seems like she is tryin to have it all her way and not include me in it! and thats what's hurting my feeling! and of coarse all I want is my daughter to be born healthy I wasn't stressing about it I was just simply implying how I was feeling about this situation