maybe if I had Jaden he'd finally want us and love us.... maybe he'd stop treating us like this if…

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Sorry to be the one to say this but babies/kids don't change a man. It's unfortunate but true 99% of the time.

@queendavis totally agree

What do I do then. I'm falling apart and breaking...

Well for starters, don't let a man break you. I know it's hard and in sure it hurts like hell but you have to pull yourself together for your son. You have to show him that you're strong and independent. Honestly, you do not need a man in order to have a family. I know it hurts and is hard now but just wait til that baby is born. The moment you see his face your heart is going to swell with the most unconditional love and you will realize that you will do anything to keep him safe, happy, and loved. Even if that means keeping him away from a toxic father. If you choose to not be with his dad or wherever I guarantee you that if you do things right and focus on you and your son, then one day you will find a man who truly loves you for you and accepts your son as his own. It's hard but it is do able!

I hope he does once he sees the baby. My bf wasn't all that nice in the beginning, kept tellimg me he would get a paternity test (that hurt me) he wouldn't touch me or hug me or ask how I was doing... he was very distant... once he saw my belly growing he changed a lil, then he felt out baby kick and move when he put his hand on my belly (which I had to kinda force him to do) he got the biggest smile on his face :) things just got better from there. Maybe when he sees your guy's baby he'll change. their paternal instincts don't kick in as soon as ours. For now just focus on yourself amd your little bundle♡ because we're pregnant and hormonal it's hard. but you can do it momma.. try some hobbies, go for walks, listen to lots of music.. anything to keep your mind of the hurtful thoughts

I'm on Ned rest due to early labor and going in any day. thank you everyone for your advice. I know I don't need a man to make a family just hurts to be treated like this and be played

My first trimester i spent it alone... I left him because of how much his actions amd words would hurt me.. I was the only one working and supporting us... I couldn't take it anymore.. he would be very cold amd distant and constantly tell me I was messing with other men. But entering my second trimester he went to LA and picked me up and told me he was sorry and that he was getting his ish together.. amd so he has :) some men do change