jennatess
jenna tess
I need some advice. My mom (as some may know from reading my posts.) has moved out here, California, from Illinois to be closer to her future granddaughter. She also has said she has always wanted to move away from Illi-nowhere. Well, I'm due next month, and she's been staying with me until she can find a house and close on it. Well, yesterday - out of nowhere to me - she breaks down crying about how she's depressed and wants to "not be living out of a suitcase"...how she's missing her old job...and "if I don't have a place when the baby is born, I'm just going to pull money out of my 401k and drive back to Illinois." . It was over 5grand for her to move out here in the first place! I feel so bad for her. I understand moving is hard. I totally get it. But, what can I do to make her feel better?! She's putting so much stress on everyone - including herself. I come across as cold, and bitchy because I'm not emotional, and I say it like it is. I didn't ASK her to move out here. I never said "Mom. You need to move to California.". Obviously, I'd love for her to stay and be here with her granddaughter. But, I totally understand if she wants to go back home. We travel a lot, and it's not like she'd never see us or her grandbaby. I don't know how to be nice and calm. :(
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Just try to make her feel at home as much as possible! If you have room for it maybe let her get one of those 15$ plastic dresser things at target. They're small. And she can feel a little more comfortable. I know how hard it is living out of a suitcase! I did it for an entire year when we traveled for my husbands job. And worst case. Just let her know if she really feels she needs to go back, that you will morally support her decision! Just be as supportive as possible no matter what her choice. ❤️
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Just try to make her feel at home as much as possible! If you have room for it maybe let her get one of those 15$ plastic dresser things at target. They're small. And she can feel a little more comfortable. I know how hard it is living out of a suitcase! I did it for an entire year when we traveled for my husbands job. And worst case. Just let her know if she really feels she needs to go back, that you will morally support her decision! Just be as supportive as possible no matter what her choice. ❤️
I think you should let her know how you feel... in a gentle way. Just tell her "Mom, if you're truly unhappy here, you don't have to stay. It wouldn't make me feel differently towards you and I want you to be happy." and tell her that she'll still get to see baby. That might take the pressure off her and she might feel more comfortable.
I think she will be ok same kind of thing happened with my mom she was kind of stuck in a rut depressed unhappy but once my brothers baby (her first grandchild) she was happier than I have ever seen her. Just think positive mom might just be going through a phase and don't let it get to u too much
@ab, I'm going to sit her down today and say that. I think she's just been worried she will be 'in my way' if she's still under my roof when the baby arrives.
@kcal12, that's what I'm hoping/thinking. I've never been a mommys girl, and i would be fine if she went back home. But, I just want her to be happy. I hope you're right! I hope she finds a house soon! Haha. I'm sure that will help also...
Maybe say to her why not wait till the baby here see how you feel I just moved to another state I was so depress and sad for a while it's getting better but I'll always miss my home state but it def gets better within time just tell her to give it time and you support her let her know you are there
Maybe things will change once the baby comes. She will be overfilled with love and joy from her granddaughter and once she falls in love with her she will be content and not want to move away