I know it may be too early for this but I have a real issue ladies. My bf and I have been together…
I know it may be too early for this but I have a real issue ladies. My bf and I have been together for some time now and I'll be 20 weeks pregnant tomorrow. I love and trust him so I dont doubt that he's a faithful guy at all and I know he loves me. But my problem is we both have very demanding schedules, we dont live together and we can hardly make time to spend with one another. Things are great when we do hang out but my concern is that sense before we started dating and up to now we haven't had sex yet. Its been well past 5 months for the both of us and he's twice my age so I know he cant be feeling the frustrations that I'm feeling sense I'm dealing with pregnancy hormones as well as just being so much younger than him. I know that its hard to make time to hang out at times and he works nights and get off un the morning so making time to be intimate with one another is a struggle as well as just making time to hang out. I guess I just want to know why he hasn't come up with other ways to make it happen considering he has more advantage to making it happen when he's not working. I'm scared we wont have our first time until after this baby gets here. And no ladies this baby isn't his but he's been there for me sense before I got raped and ended up pregnant. I dont think me being pregnant and the how it came about bothers him to the point of not wanting to sleep with me because we talk about everything but what I am concerned for is why isn't he putting more effort to make it happen? This much I haven't asked him yet because I dont want to press the issue but it's obviously bugging me because my hormones are causing my labido to sky rocket. Like I said, its been too long and I wouldn't dare cheat on him but I'm emotionally and sexually frustrated and dont know what to do.
Mishell Dickson·
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just tell him you want him, and come on to him should work if you don't want to talk
Toni·
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Well I've tried that and honestly I'm not that spontaneous to be trying to have sex in his car out in the open. I know regardless of where it happens our first time will be amazing but I also want to be comfortable and not at risk for being seen or get a ticket for disorderly conduct in public. Ugh he has his own place and so do I but what's wrong with getting a hotel? I mean I'm desperate at this point because we've been intimate in every which way but sexually
Toni·
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@shellybear,
feliciarose·
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He may not feel comfortable with it. He is probably trying to adapt to the fact that it's not his baby, or that he doesn't want to risk hurting the baby. Most guys won't touch women who have been raped because of the fact it traumatizes the women so they don't bother trying until both of you are ready to consent.
Toni·
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@feliciarose, We talked over things many times and we're both ready, just finding the time to make it happen is a bit challenging. But there are days we spend 2 or 3 hours together just riding around having a great time and all be thinking is damn it pull over to a hotel so we can get it on aleady lol
feliciarose·
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oh lol
deleted-user·
It seems like you're putting a lot on him already you keep asking why "He" putting forth effort ... But why can't you put forth effort as well? Men love seeing their woman take charge sometimes. If you're not spontaneous well my dear try to be make it work for your relationship .
Toni·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@phasion, Who said that I wasn't putting any effort? I do my part and that's why I'm concerned on why he isn't trying as much as I am. I obviously stated that we both have demanding schedules and the fact that I know things aren't easy for him to adjust to, I don't try to bother him about it. But like I said we do talk about how we feel and what we want and I figured sense we're both ready why hasn't he made it possible? Its like this, we always take his car when we go out and even though we have our differences we have much more in common than we thought so I dont see why he's holding back.
deleted-user·
@mommy3, I'm just going off by what I just read love ... Correct
Toni·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@phasion, Yes I understand but I am certainly in a tricky situation and sense cheating isnt on my list of options, I just wanted to know if its possible to let him know that I can't take the wait any longer without pushing him away. I mean I've heard of the 90 day rule and all, but after 5 months and still no play I'm getting really agitated
deleted-user·
@mommy3, yes cheating is not the way to go . I'll say stop talking and as soon as you get around him just go for it and get freaky !!! But I know it can be very frustrating love .
Toni·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@phasion, Lol I wish I had the nerve but this is my first relationship in a little over 2 years and this is also the oldest person I've dated so I get nervous but I also try to remain firm on what I want because I dont know what the future holds and I'm not ready to call it quits
deleted-user·
@mommy3, do it you have to I bet it will really shock him I promise . And console him give him tons of compliments while feeling him up just try pray over it and do it . He may understand that when you take action like oh she ain't playing
Toni·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@phasion, Ok I guess it's worth a try I mean I'm losing my mind and patience lol