Girl I am all for staying together and doing what it takes to make a relationship work. I come from a broken home & it was hard growing up. Honestly you need to lay down the law, let him know that you will no longer tolerate that treatment from him. Remind him that he has a daughter and ask him If he would want her future man to tre at her the way he treats you. Then tell him that if he doesn't want to lose you and your baby he needs to respect you the way you deserve. @journeimommy15

I've tried that he says he appreciates my support then we good one moment next he gets a picture of her from his mom or a call from her when his mom has her And its like the world stops he shuts me out he won't interact with my belly he will step outside for a while come in and be silent like I'm not there it sucks I feel for her to I mean she is a chils who needs her dad but its not mine or his fault its her moms fault @mrsmommy ugh I'm so over this

It sounds like his ex is very selfish and immature. I'm sure he is very hurt and upset, but he shouldn't take it out on ya'll. It's sad that your husband and you guys have to suffer but I feel even worse for his little girl. His ex doesn't realize how much she is affecting her daughters mental health even so young. It will eventually catch up to her. I think that you should let your husband know that you support him wanting a relationship with his daughter, but that it's not fair to him to take it out on you and your growing family. Hope this helps. =) @journeimommy15

I'm in the same situation while kinda....I have a step daughter she is 2going on 3 I'm not allowed around her cause her mom doesn't agree with my husband and I being married....I've tried to love her from a distance as best that I can but its hard and now I'm having my own kid which is great but now I have to deal with my husband emotional break downs cause he can't see his daughter I don't mean to sound selfish I really don't I do care about his feelings but come on u knew the type of girl u had a kid with and how she would make ur life hell for moving on why is me and our unborn to blame or get cased away when u think about ur daughter aren't we one family???? it just sucks I need advice and to to it of baby mama is pregnant to by someone else so why can't we get my step daugther??? its on her time and if my husband sees her I can't be nowhere around @mrsmommy @essence

Just love her like you had her biologically and I promise it will strengthen your relationship with her and your husband! He will love you more for it if it's even possible. =)

oic... I'm just speaking from experience, except I was the child in the scenerior. The best thing you can do for you, your husband, and step child is to be her mother. Especially since you are her ONLY mommy. it's important to build that mother daughter relationship now while she's young. I'm telling you she as a baby, child, has the capacity to love you like a birth mother. You need to think of her like your biological child and treat her as such. If you treat her different from your biological baby she will grow up resenting you, your other baby, and her dad. That's what happened to my sister and I. We were treated so different from my stepmother and dad from our half siblings that it has caused so many issues. I'm 29 and I still have anger, hurt, and resentment towards my father, stepmother and half siblings? Please don't make that mistake. @essence

@mrsmommy,

She doesn't have a mom I am her only mom ... I'm only 19 I get confused on the fact that I'm to be a mother figure to her not a older sister me and my man are almost 10 years apart. it's just really hard with a new born

Don't think of her like a step child. I know it's hard but try to treat her line your own child. make sure you just talk about what your husband is okay with you doing. don't want to overstep him, but she needs to respect you like a parent because you are her 2nd mommy. @essence

I understand honestly I don't have patience for other kids.. I have my own to worry about lol. but she's still young.. your gonna have to figure a way to make it better because she's getting older and she needs to listen its good for her.

it sounds bad but it's alot harder to deal with when your not there parent ya know ... I don't have the heart to disapline her so she kinda just walks all over me when she put in time out she will straight get up and done hat she wants , it's an attention thing cause she only does it when I'm either on the phone or taking care of the baby @mrs.oliva

I take care my 3 kids 7,6,4 and my new born (2months).. my kids are super hyper but you have to be firm with them.. I do it on my own mon-friday the on Saturday and sunday I make hubby watch them

its hardd i know love my son did the same try those girl building blocks too !

@mamateee, she not a listener lol I tried crayons and she colored on my walls 😩😩 I think I'm gonna get one of those pads with markers that are only made for that paper . it's a challenge some days I break down honestly

i have a 4yr old & a 2yr old & im prego now he was 2 when i had my son movies & building blocks helped me alot. since shes a girl maybe coloring or playdough will be good tk have around the house to keep her entertained while you care for baby cus shes a baby herself. thats awesome that you arw caring for both power to you love

@mamateee,

My step daughter is 3 my newborn is a month old

how old is your stepson ?