Seriously needing to vent. This is my fiancée's first baby and my second. When I got pregnant his…

I don't know how to put this but I'm just going to be real... You are like an intruder in to her family... I know you are very emotional but don't wear your feelings on your shoulder... His mom is trippin right now but as soon as she sees the baby girl she's going to embrace you.. Don't trip most mothers are like this to their son

@chocolatequeen, I just feel like she thinks she's going to be raising this baby. Because that's what she pretty much accused me of when she found out I was pregnant. Idk it's just hard when I feel like I can't even say anything.

thats so.rude the baby shower is supposed to be for the mother an baby your so.not overreacting

Well if you're having the baby then you need to be included in decisions, yea this is her son,but mil needs to grow up!

@sophia1212, He called to make sure his Brother wasn't making it up because he didn't believe she was even doing it. But it's definitely for him. Because she's doing it when he comes down at the end of February and I'm not going with them.

@jackiemommyof2, your feelings are understandable.. Keep your head up.. Most mothers don't care for the baby as well and that's even worse

@momof6, She acts like I'm this horrible person because I have one kid already I live with my parents tell May and her father isn't involved.

@chocolatequeen, Trying my best to. ☺️

It was good of the father to stick up for you! And just hang in there emotions or not it's yours and his baby, and should be your decisions as well for the shower! I understand that her boy is growing up and becoming a dad but she needs to respect you

Before you even think bout getting married, you need to set some ground rules with your fiancée. That's great that he stood up for you, but he needs to do that at all times. If you're feeling as if you cannot express your feelimgs about how his mom is excluding you, then he clearly does not understand the severity and importance of supporting you over everyone else. And as his future wife it's important that you communicate to him how much you need him to be your number one supporter. If he can't handle your needs and he chooses not to defend you against his mom, then he is not the right one for you to marry. You're not marrying his mom, you're marrying him. You don't have to prove anything to her. He has to prove to his mom that you're the right one for him. Don't ever settle for less than you deserve. Don't worry about his mom's antics. When push comes to shove, you're the mother of that baby and she has no chance of raising that baby without you. Keep your head up and be strong. His mom is betting on you to sit back and take all the nonsense.

@lajo, @momof6 I talked to him about it. He understands why I'm upset and he's upset too. He's assured me we are doing this together and it's our baby not hers and we will do all of this together.

You have a good man, I'm glad he's taking a stand

@momof6, He knows I had a seriously bad relationship before him and he knows that my fears of all this come from that. And he knows that we have plans and that we need to stick to it to have what we want for our girl.

*girls