@deanna, aww don't let it ruin your confidence, me and my husband made a deal because of me being in bed jail and on pelvic rest and that deal was that whatever I needed to do to give him some sexual relief and gratification I would do, he's never gotten crazy or never asked every day but there has been times where he's asked me to kiss it, or jack him off, I do it with no problem because it keeps him intimate with me, not the tv and plus me are nasty sexual beast regardless if we like it or believe it they just are and no matter how much the claim sex ain't an issue it is they think about it night and day and they watch us 24/7 as we walk, clean, sleep, bend over etc....,

@18andpregnant, this is way for a long time i question did i really want to be serious with a man because they are not understanding sometimes but we need them in ares of our lives

exactly my point. they sure in the hell wouldn't like to walk in on us doing our thing to some guy in a computer screen.

@18andpregnant, we get horny too but its not like we have to watch naked men to play with ourselves

@kaity0117, we did he promise me he wouldn't do it again and i dont believe him because he lied then got mad about it. I really thought about leaving him because this is the third time he lied about something soo small to tell me when i know the truth. How can i trust him with anything else? Like with real woman on hes social media page which i dont have none and never seen his.

@deanna, I mean I get your horny. but I send you pics allll the time. jack off Idgaf but please don't do it to other girls ya know. its wrong.

I had this problem with my boyfriend. I sat down and talked to him. Explained to him that I'd rather him ask me to help him out and have a shower together so I can be the one to play with him or in bed... But the porn thing really bothered me because I was comparing myself to those girls and it hurts! Some woman are okay with it and might even join in with the watching but I just compare myself to them and it makes me insecure. Talk to him, tell him how his actions make you feel and discuss what you can do as a couple to change that. Me and my boyfriend have an arrangement and he will ask me to "service him" (lol weird term) and I will do it if I feel okay and if I don't there has been once or twice he just went and handled himself (to pictures of me) and came back a happy man. But that's something you really need to explain to him... Whether it hurts you, makes you insecure, makes you jealous or all of the above! He's your man and he should be willing to come up with a compromise!

@mandi0101111, i dont want him touching himself at all i want to be the one to make him finish all the time

@14emathews, yea that it but to me it is cheating mentally. How can you love someone but you want to watch another woman naked. I dont want to see another penis his is enough for me. There has to be one guy that doesnt do this and understand it's hurtful

@sinabear, im scared to go through his phone because i dont want to feel even more hurt. When i saw it on my computer it was heart breaking to see what he was into

@18andpregnant, on thanksgiving though?!?! Thats so disrespectful wtf lol thats not even cool on any day but not the holidays!!

I have yet to catch my man in the act but it'll probably hurt me a little bit too. the thought of my man jerking off to porn is making my stomach uneasy. it shouldn't be that easy for men to watch bimbos and get excited by that. I remember one time my man tried getting me to watch guy porn and I wasn't into it at all! I do agree its better than cheating but its still a dissapointment

personally I don't let my man watch porn I get upset too it's like after being with him for so long I only have eyes for him I feel it should be the same. he doesn't anymore but some time I catch him jerking off to me when I'm sleeping that I don't mind much. because he is thinking of me.

@deanna, so yeah ma...i feel you! i walked in on him the other day while he was taking a bath and he quickly tried to hide his phone....really dude fuck that 🙅

@sinabear, smh yea girl i know just nasty

i hate when my man does it...its like hes making love to his phone n shit picturing another woman

I feel you.

I would definatly be upset also

@kimmygarrett85, well i rather him not do both. If i can wait so can he we both have needs but we can take care of them together like we use to do before the baby

@14emathews, btw thank you hun for the compliment 😘 I appreciate it a lot

@meplusmytwo, well i was giving it to him whenever he wanted so i feel like he doesn't want me when he looks at that

@14emathews, we did talk about it and he just got mad at me for him doing that to me. I honestly dont like talking to him about anything i feel that i dont like because he just makes me feel crazy about feeling that way

I'd rather my man jack off then cheat. it's only natural for men. you shouldn't lose confidence you are beautiful and I'm pretty sure he wants you and when he gets you its gonna be great for both of yall.

I see it like, u have to think about thing differently when it comes to men. How often was he getting some before pregnancy? then u have to remember that he is a man and men think about sex way more than us ladies. It's hard for him to just stop cold turkey like that. and I know u don't wanna hear this but just be happy that he's doing it himself and not going elsewhere

@deanna you're FAR from ugly. you are gorgeous and just gave him one of the most precious gifts anyone could ask for. you could always try confronting him and let him know that it bothers you that he's jerking off to a nasty vagina. men sadly don't think like us. if we had to we would wait for them but yet they can't do the same for us. it puzzles me sometimes but try and talk to him. let him know how this makes you feel and know that it doesn't mean forever just for right now.

and I walked in on him on thanksgiving... and I still get so upset about it to this day. but try not to show it bc I feel dumb. but my self confidence has hit an all time low with this pregnancy

I know how you feel. I actually walked in on my man...I was upset. I give him head litterly almost every night along with sex. ugh.....i hate the feeling it gives you knowing your man could do that. I'm sorry but I could never get off on another man😢

@14emathews, but i do do things to him. I feel like im not good enough to where you have to look at another woman that is a whore vagina. How does he think i feel i cant feel pleasure i had to be cut open. I would wait for him if he was hurting down there. I wont go rub it to another man and say oh bae but i was thinking of you the whole time. What sense do that make. I feel so ugly right now. I thought he wasnt this type of guy and to lie about it when i know!

I know I'm not super far along but when I told my man he has to wait six weeks after I give birth he's like "well time to bring out the porn and the lotion" I just sighed like "really?" I also know that as I get bigger and closer to my due date he's going to be scared to have sex with me. but men need to understand that were not totally incapable of pleasing them. just because they can't "stick it in" doesn't mean we can't tease in other ways. I don't know if this helped or not :/