so i guess that even tho its our money, its more ok for him to buy smoking junk, than for me to get a tattoo of our sons name. i may not work, but i work just has hard as he does but i do it raising our son, which he doesnt help with. i get that he pays all the bills, and that, but i didnt ask him to pick up a second job that he really didnt need. he wanted the second job so he could have more spending money for himself.