My husband did the DNA test for my step son today, now to wait for results. Is it bad I secretly…

it's not bad that you feel that way I believe it's only natural to feel like that but you have to realize that if it is his you have to allow him to be a father ya know

@ahylton Topher has been around since I've known his father so I do. They just never did a DNA test he is 4, and I said it's time should of been done already. On one hand I hope he is for my husband's sake on the other not because we only see him once a year and every other holiday sometimes. Also his mother is psychotic

oh well yeah it's gonna be hard on him if it's not he's been thinking for all these years it's his son and if it's not that will be devastating but I don't think it's bad u hope it's not I would probably feel the same way

its not good but its human, your not a bad person. keep your chin up no matter what turns up love ^-^

My bf found out his son wasn't his and I was secretly happy but hurt for him at the same time. I felt guilty for it but like she said were human and we want what we want (to be the only mama of their children).

@megan thank you for sharing that means a lot :)

@isabellasmommy2015 @ahylton thank you ladies for your support

I still get the feeling from time to time only because I hate my stepdaughters Mom and would love for us to have nothing to do with her

@tattooedwho it's hard being a step parent. Do you ever feel left out?

no never my husband doesn't really deal with his ex I mostly do, and she's a pain in my ass and I'm probably gonna end up in jail one day for whooping her ass lol. when his daughter comes for visitation she's usually with me because of his work schedule so if anyone is left out its him lol

but sometimes I just think how easy it would be if she wasn't his

@tattooedwho I normally am with my step son also due to my husband working. So i feel left out when i don't get to talk to him on the phone. Or when they have parenting discussions I feel like u should be involved

I'm glad he is doing it! I'm hope things are getting better:)

@lovelyadre I thought of you when we bought it :). I told him I'm not making him do it to feel bad or because I'm crazy, just want to make sure. It's because I love you.

How's he feeling about it? That goods, communication seems open now:) how long will it take to get the results ?

@lovelyadre about three days . He is nervous about it which I understand. Yes communication about it has gotten better

I told her and I told him there is no parenting discussion in less time involved because all their decisions affect me anyway ..and most of the time she's with me so she has to talk to me, not him.. just explain to him that if kid is his u should be included in the decisions especially if they affect you!

unless I'm involved *

@tattooedwho I will definitely bring it up after results. Thank you for your advice and sharing :) means a lot.

welcome :)