"Even if you spank with control, discipline, and good intent, your kids are more likely to have…

I was spanked as a child, all of my siblings were, and all of my family members were as well. We all turned out fine, no mental problems of such, it grabbed our attention when we really did something bad, I talked back I got a time out, I hit my siblings I got spanked and I didn't do it again but I still talk back. You don't beat tour child but a swat on the butt I did view as bad. just my opinion

I was spanked and don't have any psychological 'hurting' from it. My parents only spanked me if it brought results. if they had to spank me more than once for the same thing then they would find something else to do. I will not abuse my child nor will I take spanking too far but I think kids need discipline or they'll just turn into spoiled brats. yes, there's many different ways to go about that and I'm not saying I'm going to spank my son, but I don't think its fair to say kids are going to hate you or have psychological trauma if you spank them

Yeah and like I said some people aren't negatively affected by it but other people are. The line you walk between physical abuse and spanking is not very big and it is easy for someone to fall on either side of the line. I know my experience that I still feel uncomfortable around my dad for it and i would never be okay with hitting my son. You can easily discipline a child without laying a hand on them... So why take the risk? Every persons brain works differently and therefore things that happen to each individual is going to affect everyone differently. There is no way of knowing how it will affect your child. And I am shocked that people hit babies... I'm talking under 2. If you just did the research, the reasons for and the reasons against then make your choice on how you will discipline your children. But don't go blindly raising your hand. I think this topic could cause a lot of arguing but everyone is entitled to their opinions, I just feel strongly about it. I'm sure my grandparents would be okay with spanking, but I am not. @macy2015

And I didn't mean to say your kids will hate you. I have my own reasons to be angry with my parents and spankings was a big part of that. I just don't do violence and in my mind any kind of hitting is violence and I know a lot people would think of me as weird or crazy for that but I have anxiety and depression issues and have since before I can remember. If anyone yells in front of me I get really anxious and I have panic attacks all the time. If spanking is what you want to do then I would make sure there is a big discussion with your kid about why it happened and make sure they know you love them. I know I won't spank. I know there is ways you can raise a good well behaved child without hitting them.

@chhaya,

I would never hit a baby.. but yes if my son acts up and I've already told him to stop and he continues he will be spanked, when he is old enough to understand of course. You take a risk by yelling at your child, yelling can cause mental problems just as much as spanking can. I'm not arguing with you, and spanking made a fine line between my parents being my friend and my parent, I don't resent my parents for doing that. I actually thank them for spanking me and I am glad they did it taught me to respect them when they said no. @kaity0117

I got spanked as a child and I love my parents to death I have no animosity towards them. they disciplined me only when I needed it and it wasn't traumatizing I actually respect my parents more for the way they raised my sisters and I it really just congress down to his you spank your kids done people go over board and some people know when and when not to. just my opinion

yea I don't too much agree with this either.. now I don't believe spanking or hitting is always the 1st choice. like as I got older taking my toys away or not being able to go by a friends house was more painful. but I will spank my child.. with my hand. I don't believe in getting objects and stuff tho

Yeah everyone can disagree with it all they want. Psychology isn't a joke though. And just because you aren't bothered by it doesn't mean your child won't be. I don't agree with spanking I think it's morally wrong to hit a child. If you are okay with hitting your own child... Well okay then. Good for you. You can walk the border of the abuse and just hope your child isn't affected by it. If getting things you liked taken way was more painful why would you hit your child? If they hit you are going to hit them back? Teach with fear? Is have been proven that it's not even effective. And I find it a little creepy that someone would respect their parents more because they hit them... That's the bottom line. When you spank you are hitting, as in physically hurting your child to make a point! How is that okay? @sexii_diiva

well you have your opinion && I have mine... I was hit && I'm fine... so I'm sure if my child does something bad enough I will hit him.. just cuz you hit your child doesn't mean you're an abusive parent... just like because I hit -& you don't it doesn't make you better then me.. doesn't mean your child will be better then mine as well... my mother has a PhD in psychology -& like I said I was perfectly fine....

Okay... I never said I was better. I am just non violent. @sexii_diiva

Well I agree with your posts & comments @kaity0117 ..now a days it's different. I don't believe in spanking either. It's a form or hitting like you said. Same as yelling or anything. You need to get down at your child's level of height and be stern with them. Everything you do is a message to them. You hit.. It's ok for them to hit. You yell.. It's ok for them to yell. Etc

Exactly, I was hoping I wasn't the only one who felt that way @nrdubrayxx