I WAS JUST LAYING HERE TALKING TO MY MIL ABOUT ALL THE FOUL SHIT MY HUBBY HAS DONE TO ME AND I TOLD…

I agree if you decided to stay its time to move on.... bring up the past will just make him resent you and make him want to do it again!!!! been there its not fun... the first thing I would say you should do is work on your self find a way you can cope to get over it because if you bring it up everytime you get pissed your not over it yet...

Personally I'm the type to always think about how bad my bf did me in the past but then I think if I already forgave him I can't question our relationship on it or be mad at him. But if he was to do me wrong again then that's where I look at it as, he did me wrong before n I forgave but he did it again so do I forgive again? So what I'm saying is if u already forgave him n kinda moved on with the relationship why back track n let y'all be ruined by that? Think positive n hope for a brighter future! If he does wrong again then that's when I'd double think y'all!

it hurts them and actually aggravates them more making the situation worse .... i used to do that and when i finally stopped 2 years ago he confessed that it hurt him because he felt like i would never forgive him but also made him mad because he said he never did it to me so girl if u can just let it go u dont ever have to forget but moving on is better and moree peaceful for you

she's actually right. if u guys want to continue to be happy u have to let go of the past

@marushka22, I BELIEVE THATS MY PROBLEM IM REALLY NOT OVER IT HE HAS DONE MY WRONG OVER AND OVER I STAYED AND GAVE HIM CHANCES TO CHANGE OKAY I FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT AT 7 WEEKS HE GOT LOCKED UP WHEN I WAS 9 WEEKS WITH THE HOE HE WAS CHEATING WITH THAT HE KEPT DENYING HE I AM 27 WEEKS PREGNANT WITH MY FIRST CHILD AND HE NOT AROUND BUT I LOVE HIM AND I WANT IT TO WORK WE ABOUT TO HAVE A CHILD HE GOT ME PREGNANT AND THAT HAS NEVER HAPPENED

@2615mommi2b,

See if he keeps doing u wrong n u stay n say u forgive (we never forget) then he thinks he can keep doing wrong n still keep u around. If u want it to work then show him u can n will walk out on him if he doesn't get his shit together. That's what I had to do n after being apart he showed me a change.

@mommy3rmz, HE HAS TOLD ME THAT TO THAT IT HURTS HIM THAT I CONTINUE TO BRING UP THE PAST BUT I JUST BE LIKE YE WHATEVER YOU BEEN LYING AND YOU STILL LYING. HIS MOTHER SISTERS BROTHERS FEEL HE REALLY LOVES ME AND HE IS CHANGING TO BE A BETTER MAN FOR ME CAUSE HE DON'T WANT TO LOSE ME BUT I KEEP HAVING MIXED EMOTIONS.

But I noticed I also didn't help myself bc I was always bringing up the past n getting re-upset n mad over it n then I started accusing n that's when he would say fuck it n do me wrong again. I get it's hard to let go of the past but honestly it's unhealthy to hold on to it n to keep having it brought up in the relationship if u want it to work

@meplusmytwo, ITS SO HARD TO I SWEAR

@buckbaby15, trust me I know but I had to learn the hard way. sometimes it's best to bite your tongue rather than getting mad about the same bullshit over an over again

@buckbaby15, girl trust me!!!! if hes not there now hes not going to be there just because of a baby!!! your probley not going to take my advice BUT!!! Your setting yourself up for failure if you tjink he is going to change hes not going to change till he is ready!! and theres no sense in worrying about him amd what hes doing and staying pissed and unhappy and missing the babys sweet milestones.... you still have time to get to where you need for you and your baby to start fresh, also you are young enough and pretty that tjis baby isnt the end of your life you will find someone who wants to treat you like a princess, and wouldnt dare try to hurt you!!!!!!!!

U stayed boo... it's time to let go and let God! Or ur going to keep the old bad stuff from ur past in ur future! Pray through those feelings and watch how close u get to ur husband and God!😘😘😘 @buckbaby15

@meplusmytwo, YOU ARE SO RIGHT I REALLY DO NEED TO LEARN TO BITE MY TONGUE AND JUST LEAVE IT.

@marushka22, HE ISNT HERE BECAUSE HE IS IN JAIL BECAUSE OF HIM MAKING STUPID DECISIONS. HE HAS DONE ALOT OF MESSED UP SHIT TO ME BUT HE IS ALWAYS THERE NO MATTER WHAT HE CATERS TO ME EVEN THROUGH ALL THE BS NO I DONT NEED A MAN TO TAKE CARE OF ME I BEEN TAKING CARE OF ME SINCE I WAS 17 BUT I CANT EXPLAIN THE LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP WE HAVE THROUGH EVERYTHING I JUST GOT TO LEARN TO LET GO OF THE BS.

@babyboolala, IVE STARTED DOING THAT TALKING TO GOD EVERYDAY AND NIGHT IM NOT AS BAD AS I USE TO BE ABOUT THE WHOLE SITUATION. BUT SOMETIMES MY MIND WONT SHUT UP AND LEAVE ME ALONE AND I FLIP ON HIM. PRAY FOR ME AND US PLEASE.

I will... everyday at 2pm until God tells me otherwise! Let God work babygirl! and smile!

then buckbaby you have already made your decision.... you do what makes ypu happy... :) you got this!!!! maybe get a list of everything that needs to be worked on (with out the past) when he gets out then you sit down and have a talk and tell him how you feel and how ypur working on it.... but this time you ha e now find a way to cope with it all