So ladies, I would love some advice on the subject of marriage .... I'm 17, & so is my boyfriend, he…

I honestly think 17 is so young. You have so much more to experience in life. Its rare that high school sweet hearts stay together forever. Its possible but do you guys live with your parents? If so try moving together 1st . See how it is to be with someone all the time. Its different actually living with one another. I mean I'm not trying to discourage you Or anything but just think about it from every angle because 5 years from now you will be a total different person && so will he. Y'all can either grow stronger or grow apart. Ultimately its your decision && I wish you guys the best !!

Also make sure he is really ready... women mature earlier then men && when a baby comes you grow up even faster. You said you already take care of your siblings but his background maybe different... like I said if you guys do I wish you the best... They do have couples out there that has been together since high school...

@sexii_diiva, thank you, & yes we do stay with our parents because the place that we will be living in won't be available to us until later. We stay days at each others houses. & I'm not trying to get married now, I wanted to wait also a while after baby came to see how we both handled things with our son. I just get confused with how I should act? You know because I'm not his wife, I'm his girlfriend & the mother of his child but each of those things have their own boundaries. I don't want to be just the baby mom or just the girlfriend especially if we do plan in staying together. & at the same time I don't want to be doing things that a wife usually does for her husband because that's a right that only husbands get. You know what I'm saying? But I don't want to come off with that all of a sudden

@sexii_diiva, thank you, & yes we do stay with our parents because the place that we will be living in won't be available to us until later. We stay days at each others houses. & I'm not trying to get married now, I wanted to wait also a while after baby came to see how we both handled things with our son. I just get confused with how I should act? You know because I'm not his wife, I'm his girlfriend & the mother of his child but each of those things have their own boundaries. I don't want to be just the baby mom or just the girlfriend especially if we do plan in staying together. & at the same time I don't want to be doing things that a wife usually does for her husband because that's a right that only husbands get. You know what I'm saying? But I don't want to come off with that all of a sudden

@_february2015_, hey im 19 I got.married and am 24 weeks I have a lot off places and people already look at me weird for being married so young but if you don't want to rush into things be careful and make sure it's what you want and him marriage isn't as easy as a lot of people think. but you guys being together for almost 6 years helps alot to.. I would wait till l after the baby its born and live with the father and baby for awhile and see how it is.

@februarybaby, agreed, I could care less what people think for getting married young especially if its my decision & my life. But that's the plan, to hold off a while after the baby's born. The things is though how long is too long ? I know that things are tough on his end of things & decision making isn't one of his specialties. I don't want to be the gf who sticks around for years because a wife and a gf are two very different things.

@_february2015_ okay well yea I get it.. I'm 25 && my bf && I been together 3 yrs I've known him for 8 tho.. && i had my own place before && he was always over there every night. last year we moved together && its still totally different... He has habits that I don't like && I do stuff he doesn't like... but overall I enjoy living with him... we are actually getting married next week but relationship are hard work. when everything is good everyone is happy.. but the true test is when bad things happen like he lose his job....or he loses his car... stuff like that ... that's the true test to see if you can get thru those hard times together... so I think it's a great idea to move in first with one another && yea see how things go with the baby.

@_february2015_, the key Is patients. I would wait 3-4 months at least it lets you heal after the baby its born. He will ask when he believes it's right. I wouldn't wai forever..like 3-4 years then something its wrong..in my book. you also have to think maybe he had to Get his cards in order to. He will have to put this child before everything and everyone in a way. you won't just be a gf anymore you would be his baby moms and that is a while different boundary then a simple gf and wide

@_february2015_, the key Is patients. I would wait 3-4 months at least it lets you heal after the baby its born. He will ask when he believes it's right. I wouldn't wai forever..like 3-4 years then something its wrong..in my book. you also have to think maybe he had to Get his cards in order to. He will have to put this child before everything and everyone in a way. you won't just be a gf anymore you would be his baby moms and that is a while different boundary then a simple gf and wife

oo && I agree what you said you don't wanna pretend you're a wife.. && don't.. I do things for my man but to a certain extent.. example He has another child. I don't babysit that child if he has things to do. I feel like that's wife duties I'm not his wife yet.. lol even tho its a week away from us getting married. until we exchange those vows then I'll step up.

@sexii_diiva, well congratulations (: yeah I understand, he does have a few habits I'd probably be annoyed with if we were together 24/7 . I appreciate the advice

@_february2015_ no problem 😉

I got married at 18 and divorced at 20, took forever to get it over with. wasn't even a year before we separated. yes don't rush into things, if you get engaged, have a long engagement. its better for both of you as you grow with your child, you never know what happeneds. take everyday as it comes.

My boyfriend and I have been together since we were 19 and are going on 5 years together. We were both COMPLETELY different people when we started dating, but are so blessed to have grown even closer and more in love throughout the years. I think it really just depends on if you both want the same things in life, and if you truly love eachother which it sounds like you do. I agree with some of the other comments that you'll both change a lot, but sometimes it's a good thing. My philosophy is to go with the flow, I want a fabulous wedding and am in no hurry because I know we are strong either way! 😊

I'm 27 I been with my husband since we were 16 years old and been married now for five years it really isn't easy we have changed a lot though out the years but managed to keep our family together. I suggest you wait a few years and if you both still feel the same way then start planning your wedding and best wishes to your family.

if u all love each other and want to get married then do it but if u think he still has a lil more growing up to do( like with making sure he knows what he wants) then Maybe a Long engagement could work or just wait to make a decision until you feel hes at the same place you are mentally

I told my boyfriend (he's 20 and I'm 19) that he can get me a promise ring because I can't imagine being with anyone else. Im 29 weeks right now and this is my first and only pregnancy and my first relationship to last more than 3 months... And we weren't together for 7 months before we found out we were pregnant. And now we've been together a year and I am happy with him but neither of us is ready for marriage. He's the only man I've ever considered marrying but not ready for that! You need to do what's right for you and your little family! And it's good you've talked about marriage... My boyfriend and I even talked about what would happen if we can't make our relationship work!

@babybishop2015, @kate0329 @letecia @tgeezy thanks ladies, for all the advice you've given me. there's a lot more to think about before any final decisions are made between him & I. & @kaity0117 we gave each other our promise rings on our one year in May this year, & maybe that's how I'm feeling too ... I've always dreamt about marrying the love of my life. & I know that my boyfriend is the only man I want to be ... thanks. What you said really opened my eyes a little more because I defiantly know that I'm young, & I wouldn't want to end nor regret my marriage when it doesn't happen.

Exactly! You can have a family and be happy and not be married! I will marry him when I am ready for that. He knows I love him and only him. But we have so much to learn about ourselves and each other... And I want my son to grow up knowing what real love is... Not what we see on tv or read in books. Real love. Neither of us is mature enough to enter marriage right now!! We are too busy trying to mature enough to give our child the best life he can have. And I need to concentrate on bettering myself for my son... Because he will never be "mistake" in my eyes but he was unexpected. And now I need to do all I can do to be the best mother to my son. If this man I love is the right man for me he will love enough to grow with me as an adult and a parent, until I am ready to be his wife. Good luck to you and your family! Always say sorry, look for the good in the bad situations and lean on each other instead of pushing each other way when times get hard! 😊👶👍💪