@kats0329, thank you! That's really how I feel. I was thinking of going over for thanksgiving but hubby really doesn't want to so I'm not going to get involved anymore.

no ur not mean it seems like u all shldnt go over there anyway bc of what u said goes on . it shouldnt be a one way street she needs to make an effort too not just u all

@kaylhunt2, i don't think it's so much because my mil doesn't want to handle the baby, it's more she is mad that we don't go to her house and visit her but I am tired of going to her house. People are always drinking and she always has strangers over and their dog is so our of control. We stopped going over when I got pregnant because her dog jumps on people and I didn't wan somthing back to happen. So we would start inviting her out but eventually she stopped accepting our invitations because we just wouldn't want to go to her house. I just don't want to put my child in a bad environment, if she wants to associate with her people then I shouldn't have to go over and be ignored while she entertains..idk. Maybe I am mean?

that is the same way my mother in law treats me. she dumps her other grandchildren on me to watch, then i get crap when i cant take them, yet she wont take them anywhere because "theyre too much trouble" they are really sweet boys, she just wont.puy in the effort.