@pro ssyprissyme, I understand completely!

@sirenita_x3, those are my exact sentiments, it was just everything else going on around me at the moment that was weighing me down. I don't really care for my sons father though and there's nothing he can teach my son so honestly I don't feel like as far as him, I'm missing out on anything like you said my son deserves more. I rather him have no father than a part time one second guessing his own worth because of a jackass nope mommy and family are all you need to be great

I will not allow my child's father into my life and honestly it was the best decision I made. You have to look at the brighter side of things sometimes. We were together for 2 years, I was so InLove with him and was waiting for him to change, even him wanting a child with me couldn't fix him. I'm doing it for me and my child. We don't deserve to be treated that way.

@mommytantrum, definitely!

I sooooo get this. My baby daddy is an alcoholic. All he has to do is get sober. Easier said than done, but he's not doing counseling and still drinking. I was depressed for so many weeks. It may sound cliche but going to church is what helped me out of it. The sermon was about denial and how only God can lift his ass out of denial. It's not my fault or job to do it. If I want to be a well rounded mom I had to find my happiness again. Start enjoying this pregnancy because who knows, I may never get another chance at this. Being alone is scary and lonely and it's okay to not feel 100% happy about the circumstances. We're human hun but there's a reason you're having a baby. Some reason you and I might not figure out for a long time but I had my 20 week ultrasound and I saw that baby boy and just thought, I will never let him feel as unloved or unworthy as his dad made me feel. If I can just do that, that's enough. Honestly I sometimes wish my baby daddy would just go away. Because what's worse is realizing the courts my force me to give my child time with an alcoholic because I don't have enough proof and because when we were together I made covered up for his fuck ups. Now I have to deal with emotional chaos everytime we talk, and everytime I think about him fighting me for placement.

@prissyprissyme, your welcome. I have my baby daddy in my life but i know how it feels personally because i didn't have a mother or father because they both didnt want nothing to with me. And it hurts. Just love that baby. One is better than nothing

@deanna, yes it's really fucked and unfortunate, but it's life and I've learned. I say the same thing cause it's more less the mans child than the women, were just the carriers but men don't see it as "without them there would be no baby". So it's very unfortunate. But my Son is MY son and MY son will be raised as just that. Not out of bitterness nor resentment, but the facts that, I don't need no man half around forcing himself to be there because he feels obligated not cause he wants to be. And I don't need MY feeling any less because he feels he isn't good enough for love. So regardless I still won't talk bad about his dad, because he's being raised by a queen. Thank you so much for your words I really appreciate all the genuine care.

Ugh men. This breaks my heart with you and all the other ladies on here that go through this. Im tired of these men all for making a baby but run from raising it. It's ridiculous and no women in the world deserves this its unfair and unfair to the baby. Because you are a strong woman i know your son will be a strong man and love his mom and be the man his father never was. He would have your back better more than anyone i know it. Im sorry hun and please dont blame yourself like some women do its never you fault. Some men are sooo dirty!! Ugh!!

Ofcourse anytime! And thank u! You're so right! We have to set examples for our little ones now. We have to be their role models. Rather it be us than random people lol

@mmmirage, thank you so much. I've been telling myself this for a while, I try to be strong because only a strong woman can raise a Man. Thank you so much, you're a strong woman god bless you and I'm sorry to hear you're going threw the same disappointments

No woman needs a man who doesn't need her. That baby is in your stomach for a reason. God blessed u. Don't even think abt your ex now. I'm going thru the exact same as u. My husband officially said he is getting a divorce few days ago. I've been with my parents. Honestly, it's for the best. All u should care about is that baby! Whether ur ex is the father or not, a real man will come along that'll be willing to give u both his all. I will pray for that! Be strong!

if you ever need to talk I'm here

@phe, I figured it's my hormones raging but I am going through a lot. I'll try to remain positive thank you, you woman are blessings.

@bree31, I know trust me and that's what's been keeping me going thus far but eventually you come to your breaking point you know, but thank you for all your words I honestly appreciate it

@aimes102, thanks I really do appreciate it