Finally had to set boundaries and im only 6wks with baby 2. So not my first rodeo. An old friend of mine came back into my life 2 years ish ago now. She missed the entire pregnancy and early years for my daughter. But my daughter is 5, i have what i liked that worked with my daughter, and i have a pretty decent system with my daughter for her things. My daughter has a bookshelf that ranges in age books from baby to at least middle school age books. Friend says oh im gonna do busy things for your daughter and we should get rid of her older books. And dont buy the texture books for baby borrow from the library (🤢). Like 1st no please dont add more things for the 5yo. She has plenty and i have no where to store them that she wont annihilate them in 2 seconds. And 2nd we dont get rid of books in this house unless they are destroyed. And 3rd no thanks i will not be borrowing texture books from the library that other babies have chewed on. She proceeds to say she never had that issue with her nephew that she practically raised, he never put anything in his mouth. Find that very hard to believe as thats how babies explore. My daughter licked the crap out of anything till she was 2.

I had to tell her i dont want advice unless i ask for it. Its not my first rodeo, im sick as all hell(hg). And the "advice" for hg had to stop. Like ive been through it. Nothing stops the constant nausea and vomiting. Im tried and cranky. I was way nicer in telling her no advice. But i have a feeling its not going to be received well.