2sweetie
Melinda Westad
I need advice. My 6 year old fights a lot with her almost 3 year old brother and she gets really violent with him. For some reason she always attacks his face. She pinches his cheeks, pokes him in the eyes and scratches his face 😭 He’s very fair skinned so it always leaves marks on his face.
She waits til I turn around or does it when they’re in another room together. I’ve tried punishing her and giving her alternate ways of dealing with him but she attacks him repeatedly and I don’t know what else to do.
She waits til I turn around or does it when they’re in another room together. I’ve tried punishing her and giving her alternate ways of dealing with him but she attacks him repeatedly and I don’t know what else to do.
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Try the app Thumsters. Every time you see her engage in a positive play or manner with her brother give her a thumbs up. This way she receives positive reinforcement. (You can also give a thumbs down) make a goal for her—for example if she gets 5 thumbs up in a day she gets ice cream. Make sure she sees you do the thumbs up, or better yet have her do it.
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Try the app Thumsters. Every time you see her engage in a positive play or manner with her brother give her a thumbs up. This way she receives positive reinforcement. (You can also give a thumbs down) make a goal for her—for example if she gets 5 thumbs up in a day she gets ice cream. Make sure she sees you do the thumbs up, or better yet have her do it.
Thank you!
Being stuck at home has really brought out some anxious and otherwise not usual behaviors in a LOT of children over this last year. I would take her to speak with a child therapist. They can help you figure out the source of the rage and the triggers the make her act out.
In the meantime, do not, under ANY circumstances, leave the 2 of them unattended. Take the 3 year old with you to pee if you have to. He has to know your protecting him at the same time that she needs to understand that your not putting up with these type of behaviors.
@2sweetie I'm not, in ANY way, suggesting you're neglectful or anything like that, AT ALL. I'm just thinkin, like we ALL know how fast time flies, especially when we're busy. Before you know it, a whole damn day has gone by. By the time you work, rush home for homework, dinner and baths it's pretty much bedtime. It's HARD to fit it the housework in all that too. We'll find ourselves doing the dishes/folding laundry sayin "Uh Huh" "Oh Cool!" "That's awesome" "Uh-huh" all absent minded and not hearin a word they're tryin to tell us. They could be pourin their little hearts out over something that happened that day and we're just staring ahead, not engaging sayin "Oh yeah?" "Uh huh". 🥺 Kid's aren't dumb, they can tell when someone's not interested, ya know?
Maybe set aside like the last 30 minutes before bed, like while you're gettin her ready or somethin, that just you and her can chat, catch up on the day, make eye contact with each other and just be. Maybe start plannin a little Mama and me date once a week, every other, once a month, something for her to look forward to.
I have NO clue what I'm talkin bout girl, I just play a doctor on TV. 🤷♀️ These would be my thoughts if I were in this situation with my own child.
I hope you guys can figure out what's goin on and get everyone on the right track girl! 🥰🤞😘
@leonardsquared, thank you. Yes he’s way over the top with his expectations for the house so I leave a lot for him to do. He does laundry on weekends and helps with dishes throughout the weekly. I simply stopped doing everything so he would do more. He’ll run out of underwear and I’ll just say “well you should probably get that going then.” I’ve tried telling him I’m not a maid so I’m not going to spend my whole day cleaning. I work too, plus I cook homemade meals and take care of the kids. This year is not my daughter’s first year of school. She went to TK last year and preschool before that. I think you’re right about the attention thing. I know I need to work on that.
@2sweetie Girl, we are ALL guilty of that! You are 100% not alone in that area. I was just spit ballin.