anicole3285
Amanda
Theast few days Savannah (my 3 year old) has told her dad that she doesn't want him here. We got home about the same time the last 2 nights. Well she told him both nights what are you doing here. Go back to work. And why is he here. Then today when we are about to leave to pick up her brother from school she tells me I don't want to pick up daddy. I said we aren't we are going to pick up brother from school. I asked why don't you want to pick him up? She told me I so don't love him. I don't understand why she's saying these things. She used to be such a daddy's girl. And for the last 2 weeks, besides the last 3 days. She would cry when he needed to go somewhere or to work. I'm so confused with her behavior towards him
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@xryztalroze @oggirl.mom @beetlejuice_beetlejuice_beetlejuice that's what I was thinking also. The not enough attention. It's sad to see. I know she loves him though
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@anicole3285 @oggirl.mom @prettygirlrock1214surromom I don't think it's wrong at all, unless he is punishing her for it, then that is not ok bc she is three and yes, her feelings are valid, but she must learn how to talk to her parents and how to express herself in a respectful way. The only way she will learn is if mom and dad explain to her what "mean" is and how to say she is unhappy, angry, mad, etc. My little girl went through this, I told her she can't be mean or rude to her daddy or say mean things, that it is ok to mad, but there's an appropriate way to say so. We restate ourselves when the need arises. I believe there is a huge difference between teaching a child proper behavior and invalidating their feelings. You can both teach and validate. It's just a matter of practice and how it's approached.
I think it’s very normal my 3 year old has said mean things to her dad before like “I don’t like you” and he gets so sad about it because he’s a very great dad always puts her first and showers her with love everyday is always present besides when he goes to work. I tell him not to take it personal. 🤷♀️ my daughter is about to be 4 and I haven’t heard her say mean things to him in a while now.
Maybe he should just spend one on one with her. Like a little datejust for daddy is daughter you guys can have it at home or she can get dressed up and go out or should get dressed up and do it at home either way if you just time to put those two
Have you guys been fighting a lot lately? She could be picking up on the feelings that you have towards him; whether you actually vocalize them or not.
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That makes sense
He's told her that it's mean to say that to him also which I don't know if that's ok to say to her but alsohave told him that that isn't something you say to her because she she's showing you how she feels still trying to express things
I also think that is wrong of him to say. She is so young and she’s trying to express her feelings how she can
@xryztalroze @oggirl.mom @beetlejuice_beetlejuice_beetlejuice that's what I was thinking also. The not enough attention. It's sad to see. I know she loves him though
We all have different family dynamics and time available for family time, one on one time. With time she will see the love he puts into her. Just reenforce that he loves her and she loves home hen she says these things. My oldest is almost five and is starting to understand more each day. I tell her that she must not say mean things and that she knows she loves him and that she only gets one papa. I explain that daddy must work as. Do chores and that is his way of showing her love, by taking care of her(us). She will even say,"He did a good job taking care of his family today", bc she is grasping it. Find your way to communicate to her how loved she is and see if you can find one day a week for him to sit with her for an hour or more to give her reassurance.
My youngest does the same thing. The moment they spend time together it's the complete opposite. He's the only one who can get her to go to bed in time too. I feel like it's just a phase she'll go through and it's because she's around me a majority of the time. She's even said "I hate you" but the moment he has to go to work she's running up to him saying she loves him and gives him a big hug.
Same scenario here. It is most definitely a phase and a stepping stone towards them being able to communicate with us. Sad, but beautiful at the same time.
It's normal. She needs more time with him. My little girl is the same way towards her papa. She will even throw a fit if I leave but once I'm out of sight she is normal, happy, playing and all smiles to be with him and her sister without me. When they are little they don't know how to express themselves the way we do and they don't quite grasp what love is. Love to them is the time spent. If dad is always at work or too busy to spend time with her once home then you will have this issue often until she is older and can better express her needs. My two year is starting to do the same thing now. As the primary parent and caretaker in the house I have a more visible bond with my girls. But they do love their papa even though they sometimes say they don't. It shows when the attention is actually given.