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I can feel myself start slipping back into depression. I'm …

I can feel myself start slipping back into depression. I'm ebf and everyone except my husband says why don't you just pump and give him bottles or why don't you just stop and give him formula? It's super discouraging. Especially from my mom. I pumped for 6 weeks with my daughter and got super depressed because I feel like I never slept and it wasn't what I wanted to do.
He's crying alot and wants to be held all the time. I don't eat anything spicy or dairy. Idk what it is.
It makes it super hard for me to be able to give my daughter the attention she needs too. I'm about at my wit's end with everything and at the end of the day, I just want to lock myself in a room and scream and cry.


— It’s probably colic and will pass eventually. My daughter was the same way. She was either nursing, sleeping or screaming 😩 It was so hard and I felt like I was doing something wrong. I wanted to quit so many times but I didn’t and I’m glad I stuck with it. It’ll get better as he gets older. Can you wear him in a carrier?

— @2sweetie I've tried. He doesn't like being in my boba wrap or my other carrier. He fights me and cries the whole time I'm wearing him. Pushes and cries and just isn't happy

— @kaitrack23, my son was like that. He hated it and screamed his head off. He’d only last like 5 mins. My daughter on the other hand loved it and took naps in it daily. But I had to walk outside. She wouldn’t sleep inside. Has his pediatrician checked him for reflux?

— @2sweetie no, he has his 2 month appt tomorrow (Thurs) I'm planning on talking to his Dr about it. Hopefully we can figure out out and start to help him

— Just to express the flip side, maybe people are suggesting you stop and give formula because of the toll this is taking on you. My daughter had horrible reflux and breastfeeding was a nightmare. I am thankful that I had some people that were not pressuring me to force something that was clearly not working for any of us

— I’m in the same boat except I have a lot of support and encouragement. It’s really hard. But I believe it’ll pass . Keep your head up girl

— The only support I really have is my husband, his mom and my kids doctor. And the lactation support counselors at my WIC office.

— It’s really hard when your newborn needs you. I completely understand. My daughter had colic and some reflux in the beginning. My son was newly 2 and expected me to continue to do everything with him. I held my daughter a lot and would sit my son with me. I made him part of the process and it helped tremendously. I told him he was my helper. Your baby is only 2 months old. He’s a completely new person. You have to get to know one another. It’ll take some time but please don’t allow anyone to pressure you to do anything that isn’t what you truly want. I regret that I gave in on a lot when my first was born. I’m sure you’re doing a wonderful job and remember it will get better. It’s hard to think that when you’re in the thick of it but it will. 💕

— @mswedes thank you. I'm not gonna give up breastfeeding. My daughter does with us alot but I miss being able to play with her and everything. My husband has to basically do all the cleaning and everything because I have to constantly hold him. I've tried wraps and carriers and he doesn't like being in them which sucks.
It also sucks that my own mom is trying to get me to just pump or stop.

— @kaitrack23, my mom and mother in law both give unsolicited advice. This is your child. You need to make decisions that you will be happy with. At the end of the day, as long as you’re doing what is best for your baby and your dr is in agreement, then no one else matters. Our parents did a lot of things that would be frowned upon nowadays. My mother in law couldn’t believe that I keep my son rear facing and would beg me to turn him around until I explained the dangers to her. Make your own informed decisions with your husband. You need to make decisions that work for you to be able to sleep at night.

I know it’s difficult when you miss your daughter. Really take advantage of those newborn naps. I’d plan something extra special during those times. Whether it was a special snack or watching his favorite show, snuggled up on the couch. Like I said, this is all new. It’ll take time to find a groove. I’m wishing you all the best in your new transition.