valentina923
Valentina
Hi guys. I never post but I wanted to ask opinions of strangers because sometimes that’s the most honest opinions you get.
My daughter is 15 and works at a prom dress store . The owner is a women about in her 40s her bf is about the same age almost 50.
He comes in from time to time brings the girls food and hands out paychecks on Fridays . There’s couple girls that work there and ages range from 15- 17. Occasionally there has been older girls that work there when they get back from college .
Anyway I tell my daughter she’s young but needs to be aware she isn’t as old as the college girls and the guys who rent the tuxedos in the back who are in their early 20s.
The girls always flirting with them my daughter says .
Anyway my husband hates her working there he just feels she’s to young to be around these older men.
Well we went away this past weekend and I saw my daughters phone had text from Bobby “ok you have a great weekend baby cakes”
So I scroll up and he had my daughter in a group chat with another girl telling them they have paychecks ready. He also sent xoxox. Then the last text was to my daughter when he called her baby cakes.
So I said first off a grown man shouldn’t even be personally texting underage girls #1 and #2 baby cakes i felt was inappropriate. My husband is livid .
My daughter went into work telling the owner her parents feel it’s best if the store owner text my daughter if needed not her boyfriend .
Well the owner started yelling at my daughter telling her she’s wrong how dare she and blah blah my bf isn’t a monster .
I’m so mad about this even more now because I feel like if they aren’t guilty of anything then she should have been sympathetic to my daughter like “ I’m so sorry that made u uncomfortable it won’t happen again” instead turned it around on my 15 yr old.
So now my daughter has ordered her sweet 16 dress through there and is afraid they won’t notify her when the dress comes in.
Please tell me am I over reacting or on point?
I’m always teaching my daughter not to trust men she doesn’t really know .
The store owner is a little nutty and loves drama . She doesn’t have kids of her own she has no clue .
Help I need opinions !
My daughter is 15 and works at a prom dress store . The owner is a women about in her 40s her bf is about the same age almost 50.
He comes in from time to time brings the girls food and hands out paychecks on Fridays . There’s couple girls that work there and ages range from 15- 17. Occasionally there has been older girls that work there when they get back from college .
Anyway I tell my daughter she’s young but needs to be aware she isn’t as old as the college girls and the guys who rent the tuxedos in the back who are in their early 20s.
The girls always flirting with them my daughter says .
Anyway my husband hates her working there he just feels she’s to young to be around these older men.
Well we went away this past weekend and I saw my daughters phone had text from Bobby “ok you have a great weekend baby cakes”
So I scroll up and he had my daughter in a group chat with another girl telling them they have paychecks ready. He also sent xoxox. Then the last text was to my daughter when he called her baby cakes.
So I said first off a grown man shouldn’t even be personally texting underage girls #1 and #2 baby cakes i felt was inappropriate. My husband is livid .
My daughter went into work telling the owner her parents feel it’s best if the store owner text my daughter if needed not her boyfriend .
Well the owner started yelling at my daughter telling her she’s wrong how dare she and blah blah my bf isn’t a monster .
I’m so mad about this even more now because I feel like if they aren’t guilty of anything then she should have been sympathetic to my daughter like “ I’m so sorry that made u uncomfortable it won’t happen again” instead turned it around on my 15 yr old.
So now my daughter has ordered her sweet 16 dress through there and is afraid they won’t notify her when the dress comes in.
Please tell me am I over reacting or on point?
I’m always teaching my daughter not to trust men she doesn’t really know .
The store owner is a little nutty and loves drama . She doesn’t have kids of her own she has no clue .
Help I need opinions !
23.04.2019
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valentina923
Thank you so much ladies
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ashtonndamon
I don't think your over reacting at all. I wouldn't even let the owner message her. I know checks come in on Friday I'll be there and if you need to get ahold of my daughter you can message me. And past that I would have her look for another job. He sounds like a creep. if I was your daughter I would be uncomfortable.
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lakota-winyan
I personally would go in there and talk to them or have My Husband go in there and talk to them. That’s not appropriate for a grown man to text a child. You are not overreacting. But like I said I would go in there and handle the situation or have my husband.
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valentina923
We want to go in but don’t want things to get out of hand cause we won’t take no shit
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kesh-kesh
Look even if he’s one of those people who calls everyone baby or sweetie once it was brought to the wife’s attention that you guys would rather he not that should of been the end of it. Just because she doesn’t see anything wrong with it other people can be uncomfortable with it. Me personally if I had a lot of under age girls working for me I’d be the line of communication. I would want every parent to feel like there child protected while working for me.
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coffeebean
Nope. I would have been up in that store whopping some ass I can’t lie. For one, I WILL NEVER tolerate a grown ass man talking to my child. You’re making a death wish right there. Second, if some grown ass woman thinks she’s gonna scream in MY kids face over her weird ass boyfriend, it will get ugly fast. There’s no limits when it comes to my children & keeping them safe. If they have anyone higher up or corporate I would call about both this issue & the dress situation to make sure they couldn’t do that. & if they do call when it comes in, I don’t think your daughter should be picking it up I think you & your husband should do it so nothing can be said to her anymore that it already has.
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harleyquinn13
The fact that she got defensive leads me to believe that there is more behind her reaction. Personally, I would probably have my daughter start looking for another job. I don’t think it’s inappropriate for your boss to text you to say the paychecks are ready but to call her “baby cakes” is very weird. What if you went in a spoke with her since your daughter is a minor?
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kimberly_preemie-mom
Huhhhh.... I guess I would be bothered by it if the guy seemed like a total creeper, but maybe that’s him trying to be nice and figured that was a safer thing to say? Seems like a really weird situation to be in. I agree it’s not good that he was calling your daughter (and the other girls) baby cakes. That is weird. What’s really shitty is now the owner handled the situation. Going off on your daughter was not the right thing to do, AT ALL. I would have her look for a different job if possible. I’m sure she enjoys being there but it’s probably not a good fit for her at her age, and the lady sounds like a little nutty herself. As soon as your daughter’s dress comes in, she should consider looking for a new job.
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