Ladies. Let's say you took your niece in. Who had a baby addicted to meth, crack and more. The baby is in Foster care . She had 9 classes each a week long and get a mental health eval.to get her baby back. Mind you she only has 3 more months before he is adopted out. She is 23 .you get her a job, the paper to fill out for her birth certificate and mind you I did that a week ago. The paper was in the trash today. She has been here 1 month. Slept with 10 guys I'm SO SO serious too. And one of them paid her $40 . She hasn't been home in 2 days and does nothing to help around the house. I've tried all I can. Talk to her, got her probation officer to talk to her. Her dad. My mom spoke to her. What should I do from here? I say pack her stuff and sit it on the porch. Am I wrong??? Her only rules are. No drugs ,clean your room, clean the mess you make .and home by 10 pm per probation. And she does none of these. Sorry I know this may not be the right place but you ladies have never told me wrong.
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You are right if you let her stay your acting as the supplier, I've been there done that at the end of the day tough love is the best love,you have to let her fuck up and make mistakes or she will never learn.
@monkeysmommie01 YOUR MOM IS A WISE WOMAN THEN , you have to let her do her and when she hits rock bottom then she'll figure out how to get to the top
Yep, if u let her stay you're considered an "enabler". Give her ONE more chance, the tell her that you're not putting up with it anymore and send her on her way! Very nice of u to try to help her out♡♡
Thank you all so very much. It hurts my heart for both her boys. But definitely the baby. But I can't have my som see this stuff she is doing.
Tough love, you were amazing for giving her a chance and she blew it.
Sometimes you have to show tough love. Sounds like she has choosen another life then being a mother. From my early years (mother at 13) to think my child was gonna be adopted I panicked and did the right thing. Yet i was in a rehab you can go with your children under age of 3 and a lot of women just don't want it, or think it is just funny. I pray things are better for her as well the family
If she doesn’t care the child is better off. I would put her ass out real quick she doesn’t wanna change she’ll be back on the drugs and in jail.
Nope not wrong. You gave her rules, and she’s not following them.
Sucks that she has a kid and doesn’t wanna get it together I say she needs to have one more warning then if doesn’t get it together kick her out
You have every right to kick her out:( sounds harsh but what can you do. You can't help someone who doesnt want to be help!! I know this for experience
Tough love. Kick her ass to the curb. It’s the only way she’ll learn and get her shit together. She can’t be enabled by anyone or she will continue doing what she’s doing. She’s gotta hit rock bottom. I know this from personal experience with my own family members. Sorry you’re going through this.
Yep hit the road cant follow my rules in my house you find your own way I'm not about helping someone who dont help themselves
Your doing the right thing.