my child’s father who has very very rarely been apart of this pregnancy and who also told me just do me is now giving me a really hard time about her name which is connected to mine. i don’t want to be selfish but i don’t want to keep making sacrifices for somebody who not even really in the picture. am i wrong?
Комментарии
@bbymomma, he should just be happy you’re giving her last his last name! You doing “just do you” didn’t even have to do that. Not your fault he hasn’t been around. Maybe if he was around it would be different. You’ve already named her. Done deal.
I wouldn't compromise on her name. If he can't be involved during your pregnancy, he shouldn't have a say. Are you giving the baby his last name?
@bbymomma I'm with u on this one! & I wouldn't change it either, hell my oldest doesn't have his father's last name because I knew he would be an absent father! Best decision I ever made!
❤️ I think her name is beautiful! My middle name is Mekenzie. I even tried to make her initials similar to his. His are CKC. It just doesn’t feel right to listen to him and her an Amoura or Mya
@bbymomma 😍 She has my initials & if I had a girl I was gonna name her Kenzii
I’m single yet I’m still giving her his last name. Her name is Kenszlie Chamile Chaney. @yatyat
@bbymomma he said "do u" so I don't see what the problem is 🤷🏽♀️ & what's her name 👀
In the end it is you that signs the birth certificate and lists the name so you do you! 😉
@bbymomma I'm so sorry he put you through that. Definitely tell him so, tell him your point and where you're coming from. Tell him if youre worried he will even be in the picture. Put it on him momma and be happy❤
@ashleybradford92, I feel confident he’ll financially provide for her. Not too sure about emotion connection cause he doesn’t value women but still I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place.
@ashleybradford92, and that’s what i did he likes the middle name but refuses to accept the first name. the beginning of my pregnancy we were in a relationship. this man has put me through so much hurt. left me. lied to me. slept around and embarrassed me. im finally at a point where im ok with what’s happened between me and him but i am so connected to baby girl. i talk to her everyday and call her by her name. my family loves it and he just gets a major attitude.
@bbymomma I'd agree with the other ladies then. If you think he won't be supportive of the child I wouldn't. If you think it is your relationship alone and he might be better after ,sure, if not then no. Just give your reasons and explain your thoughts. If he gets mad it is on him and his actions
@bbymomma In his words.... Just do you 😉 If you love her name, keep it! I'd feel worse for giving in and then him keep his pattern of rarely being apart of her life.
he hasn’t been to any of the apts he won’t be at the baby shower he very rarely reaches out to check on us but is strongly opinionated with her name idk if he’s even gonna be supportive during birth
No, I would honestly say you pick the name but offer him the middle. That way you at least are offering something, but at the same time firm on what you want
I mean, i was engaged and he wasnt really all that into my pregnancy. Came to the appointments when he could, 2 ultrasounds and the c section. Most men wont really be around espicially if your not together during the pregnancy, now that hes here hes amazing but pregnant 🤷🏻
@masseymomma16, so true!