Honestly I think it’s just something with most men... literally I have to ask for help just for him to help me... like shouldn’t you just offer it without me having to lose my mind?

@momofboth, I been gave up but then I always try again. But thank you, I hope I get the help I need too

@ashleyx2 girl I gave up . After seeing how he was with our son but you have twins so he needs to understand things are much harder and he needs to help regardless. Hope you get the help you need hun. ❤

I hope so too, thank you. I’ll try discussing it again and see what we can do

@ashleyx2 my dh tried the I'm tired thing too, and I understand like you do that they work hard and are probably genuinely exhausted, but I asked him what father to a newborn is well rested? They turn people into zombies lol he stopped and thought about it and then without a word just started getting up amd changing his nappy while I was making the bottle, then he'd go straight back to sleep. Maybe ypu guys can compromise that he does just one feed or nappy change and that even that would be a great help to you. And don't stress, the sleep does get better eventually. My little man is sleeping 7-8 hours straight now. There's been a few sleep regressions but I've just stuck to a routine and it's definitely worked. I hope you can get just a little help from him 🤞 it all makes a difference even if it's just small.

I’m just used to taking care of them overnight by myself 🤷🏾‍♀️

@momofboth, yea work is very important but when I tell him what I went through with the twins while he was sleeping, he says I’m trying to do too much by taking care of two by myself and not waking him up...but when I explain to him that I did he says he’s tired

@mamagunn.no.1, it’s been like this for weeks! If I ask, I get attitude and once I see that I do things on my own. I’m trying my best to be fair since he is the one working while I’m with the kids...... but still I need help sometimes & thanks 😊

Yea that's when I didn't wake him at all for our daughter. Him surviving work Is more important 🤷‍♀️

I just saw you have twins 🙁 poor mama! I'd be snaking my dh awake if I had 2 babies to feed in the middle of the night. Maybe have a chat to him and just say you need help, whether he's tired or not and that when he complains it makes you feel like you can't ask for help. I hope you sort it out. I commend you for doing it with 2 though 💪

I can relate (except for the fact you have two newborns and my babies are 13 months apart). I don’t know how you do it! My husband always says and does the same thing though when I have to get up with my 4 month old. Then I remind myself how grumpy he gets with no sleep, and I decide it’s probably best I just exhaust myself and let him sleep before I’m taking care of 3 babies instead of 2 the next day 😂