sydneykay12
Sydney Kildow
So my mom hates my daughters father and she gets mad at me for basically letting him be involved. So my baby shower is coming and him and his family would like to come. I told her and she basically told me if they come , she’s not coming. And by allowing him there I don’t want her or my grandma there? It’s really confusing me. She also says she’s gonna tell my grandma that there uninvited but I told her , they both can come it’s not a big deal.. she says she doesn’t wanna be around these people and be cause I have no disrespect for myself and lower myself, she doesn’t have to.. am I wrong ? Am I choosing him over my family like she says cause it’s been stressing me out. Why would she say that?
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Your mom is wrong. Not you. She’s an adult, and she should be able to put her feelings aside for the sake of her daughter.
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Honestly, I'd put some distance between her and myself, even if just physical. She's condescending and manipulative (only based on info provided) heck, if you do have low self esteem, I hope she didn't play a part in that
@sweetsap88, yeah just not as bad. It’s gotten worse being an adult
That's just how some parents are, they want to control their children's lives. Was she like that when you were growing up?
My mom is like that. I’ve had to set boundaries with her since my son was born. She’s always mad about something and mad that I “choose people over her” when that’s not the case. She’s just being immature. Do what makes you happy and put your family you’ve created first. She will come around if she truly cares, and if she doesn’t it is her loss not yours. Don’t get down on yourself. It’s not your fault she can’t be mature.
I don’t understand. All these hurtful words because I want my daughters father in her life.. I’m not understanding how I’m lowering myself .. because she doesn’t think he’s good enough. How do I have low self esteem because I want her dad involved. I’m so hurt by everything she said
You're mom is wrong for that. You and he made the child, it's both of your responsibility to care for the child. It's nice if other's want to help out. As long as he's trying to be there and coming through, let him be there. Sorry your mom feels the way she does, and that her behavior is affecting you negatively :(
Many women WISH there babys father was on their child's life so for her to try to push him away is terrible. With a baby you need all the help Md support you can get so dont let her push away any of that help or support.
@sydneykay12, regardless if your mom likes him or not he is the father of your unborn daughter and if your okay with having him around she needs to respect that! Sorry your having a hard time xoxoxo
Your mom is wrong. Not you. She’s an adult, and she should be able to put her feelings aside for the sake of her daughter.
You’re choosing the family that YOU made. And your family needs to respect you and your decisions. Every child deserves to have their father in their life. In my opinion your mom is wrong. And she should grow up and act civil so you can have your family and his family there.