@kailey.gallentine yea that's probable teue

@sbarteni, then I wouldn't even bother if I were you mama, he obviously doesn't even care about her

@kailey.gallentine I haven't set up the child support and he hasn't even seen her in person yet and she is almost 13 months

@sbarteni, I wouldn't. Either sit down or write out the rules. He can come on a set day and a set time and if he wants to come he needs to let you know the day before, if he's not there 15 after without letting you know, leave. Give him two-three chances, and after that, he's done. Every time he comes he has to bring child essentials (diapers, wipes, formula, clothes, whatever applies to the situation) and child support is to be paid in full. That's just what I found worked best for us.

@kailey.gallentine just wondering if I should ask if he wants to really be in her life so I don't waste my time trying to get him to see his kid?

@sbarteni, exactly💜 do what's best for your little family but remember to protect her heart ❤️

@kailey.gallentine yea that's what I should cus I don't want her hurt by him the way I was

@sbarteni, not sure about Oregon laws but in California being on the birth certificate only establishes paternity, it doesn't give any parental rights. It's just establishes paternity so he can file for visitation/custody, etc.

in my personal experience once he disappointed my daughter and made excuses for not coming around I cut off visitation. I refuse to allow him to be in and out at the expense of my daughters heart and innocence. No way no how lol

@kailey.gallentine yea should I message him and give him one last chance and he's not on the brith certificate

File and call it a day! If he gave a shit he'd be there. It will do more damage to her if he's there half ass rather than not at all. Just be careful of her heart. Not every daughter needs their bio dad 💜

@noahs.mommy yea I just wish my daughter dosent have to go through this at a young age but at least she dosent know him so it won't be hard.....just not sure what to do about that

@sbarteni he just doesn't want to be a dad it sounds like. My sons dad acts like that. Its horrible. Unfortunately we can't make them be in their lives or even want to be..

@noahs.mommy I'd like him to be apart of his daughter life but he's just giving me excuses after excuses as to y he hasn't seen her and he also only contact me when he feels like it

Nothing. You could go to court and get visitations but he doesn't HAVE to go to the visit. I'd see if maybe he'll sign his rights over to you or just try and get child support though again he doesn't have to pay but at the same time he does.