Мамлайф
Мамлайф
Приложение для мам
Carter'sMom

Has anyone fostered or adopted? Or has been a foster child or adopted? I want a sibling for my son. I've been hurt by…

Has anyone fostered or adopted? Or has been a foster child or adopted? I want a sibling for my son. I've been hurt by others looking for a "sister" I never had and don't want that for him. He has cousins but they have their siblings so i feel it'll be the same. He loves people and always wants to play. Since th sex department is closed til marriage and who knows when that will happen I'm considering fostering a little one.

I say little because my son is two and is not speaking clearly. Some of the kids could be emotionally abused and respond through violence and I don't want to have to send a kid back. And my son could have a "baby" as he calls all babies "my baby".

I'm venting but looking for advice at the same time.

5

Комментарии

__sade.b__

Sade’

I've been a foster child since age 8 till I aged out. And I seen many babies come into foster homes and get abused or not well taking care of by the foster parents. These babies could use some good loving parents . These foster parents don't care about anything but a check. When I was 15-16 they bribed my foster mom to keep me for 3,000 monthly. She told me they was gonna raise the money.

cartersmanmie

Carter'sMom

Thank you. I'm going to go through with it. Advice on older kids? Like I said I have to protect my son first, but an older kid who has lost hope I think would benefit so much emotionally

ravens_mommy

Samantha 😘

Мама дочки-младенца

My little sister is adopted and she came to us at 3 days old a foster. If your end game is adopting, fostering would be the way to go. But know it's not easy, you have to learn to love and let go. And parents are hard to deal with most of the time. We've had some (my parents fostered when I was a teen) that thought if they lied about the foster family and fed lies to their kid that they would get them back. It's also extremely heartbreaking when you get a kid that you know was in an unsafe place and they get sent right back. We once got a 9 month old that was so filthy and covered in cigarette burn scars but she went back after a weekend.

cartersmanmie

Carter'sMom

Oh nO TO THE BABY!!! I'll start preparing myself emotionally for the letting go part.

cartersmanmie

Carter'sMom

Thank you for the advice

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday…

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?