@astridoll

Thank you. I'll probably call and ask today about it. I was trying to be nice and civil, but she thinks just because she is married to their dad that she has just as much rights to them as I do. She needs a reality check. I hate to do it, but I won't allow her to disrespect me.

Ups that was a lil long 🙄

Of course a tired hardworking mama with many responsibilities can't give the same than a stay at home one. But that doesn't mean you're less good than her, that means you work a lot to live and support your children . Don't even let her words hurt you, because they make no sense. You don't lose anything with just call the court and ask about your case, maybe it doesn't cost you anything. But the custody is of him , not hers at all. It's good that she loves them so you don't worry about their wellbeing while they are there, and that you have a friendship with her. But that point where she believes she has the right to offend your parenting and thinks she's better than you, hey whats up, let's set limits over here. Some distance is good sometimes. I say that it might be true because my nice of 15 years old still tells me : why weren't you my mom.
And it's hard for me, because I love her and it's a good thing that she even thinks about me being her mommy. But also I think that if my sister hears that it would brake her heart.
The thing is that I understand that my niece have shared a lot with me since she was born, and she sees me as an aunty and friend. But she's still a little girl in her mind and doesn't know what she's saying. Her mom loves her and gives her a good life..
i can't pay attention to what a lil kid says. They are kids they don't even know what's good for themselves. Don't get hurt for anything . You are a good mom !!!! No one is perfect !!!

and even if those words came out of my kids mouth, why would you try to hurt the mothers feelings by saying something like that. It was just out of line.

Me and my ex have joint week to week custody. Kids are 9, 6, and 5. My mom asked my oldest just to be curious and she told her no that she would never say that and she asked who said it cause she was going to tell them to stop lying, but my mom didn't reveal who said what. But just not to disrupt what my kids had grown used to I let their step mom take them and I can't really afford to go to court to get things changed up so they don't have to go. I'm not sure what the law is when he is deployed and not even there for his custody week. She is a stay at home mom so she can give them more of her undevoted time, unlike me who works 40+ hrs a week and have actually responsibility. I just feel attacked for no good reason. @astridoll

It could be true. Remember kids don't know anything and think whoever gives a cookie to them is better than their parents . Cuz we discipline, besides the love. Strange people have no need to discipline them and only give them love and kindness. What she has is that she's thinking she's a better mom than you cuz she stays with them. She doesn't live with them to see how's the reality. I wouldn't let them go to her house anymore, not braking up the friendship, just to set limits. If I ever need desperately to let the kids with someone because I have no other person or option , then I let them go a couple hours. But it seems they are saying things they don't have to, and just in case, you don't want things to turn up legal. Maybe she starts asking your ex to fight for the kids custody or something like that. Be her friend, but set limits that's my advice.