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Dixie Carter
Currently single living with my SO and our son due to the fact that I am "driving him crazy" Ever since I gave birth 20 months ago, I have been going through episodes of depression, anxiety, and angry outbursts. He can't deal with it anymore and I just need some support because he doesn't understand. It's hard because I'm a stay at home mom and I'm trying to do the best I can. He had some mistakes after my birth which has led me not to trust him, and it's been 8 months since we have got back together and I still cannot trust him! Am I wrong? Does he need to give me more than 8 months to re-trust him? I am going to talk to a therapist soon because I just can't deal anymore.
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millermommie

if he can't be there for you through the rough times he sure AF don't deserve to be there for the good times honey!!

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millermommie

if he can't be there for you through the rough times he sure AF don't deserve to be there for the good times honey!!

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dixie_lynn

@millermommie, thank you so much girl!

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millermommie

I understand honey I've been there and I'm here to talk if u need to

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Yes and good luck. HOPE it works out for ya in the end

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dixie_lynn

@beebaby, thank you. I have some thinking to do.

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I understand and it's not easy but he isn't willing to stand by you during your tuff time he can kick rocks. that is what family is about. if the tables were turned you would be right there. that's sad

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dixie_lynn

@beebaby, I totally agree. When I came to him about me thinking I was depressed about a month ago, he told me that he would try to get through it with me, but if he couldn't I couldn't get mad if he decides to go his separate way. We have been together for 4 years, and ever since I became pregnant, it's been hell. I want to make it work because he is my whole world, but he says he is completely done with my shit. I see what you are saying about the 100/100. I just feel so lost and heartbroken

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dixie_lynn

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That always happens that way. it can't be 50/50. it's gotta be 100/100. if he isn't willing to go to therapy to save your relationship them why are you going alone to save it. that shows you he doesn't care. he should be willing to do whatever to make things right for your family. shouldn't be a one way street

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no. not being able to trust him isn't fair to you and that isn't your fault

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dixie_lynn

@beebaby, not being able to trust him isn't fair to him? I mean I am going to get help for myself but we aren't even speaking really about anything except the kid. I just feel stupid because I took him back twice when he messed up, but he can't support me through my tough time. I'm so confused

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Well what do you want to do. Don't wait on him to make decisions in your life. you deserve to be happy and not being able to trust him isn't fair

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dixie_lynn

@beebaby, He won't go to therapy with me. He says everything that has happened in the past 8 months is my fault and I'll never change. He says he's not doing anything but recently I found a nude picture of a female in his phone. Everytime I try to trust him again, this shit happens. Im trying to stay positive but my heart is broken into pieces.

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I think a therapist would be great for both of you. he needs to regain that trust back because it is his fault he lost it but you also have to give him the opportunity if you want to make it work. can't use it against him

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