It's so hard to stay positive and keep the right mindset to raise a baby when your husband's actions seem like he doesn't want to put in any extra effort for you or the baby. Rarely feeds him or changes him. Spends a little time with him. His reasons are that he works, I don't (who would take care of our week and a half old baby?!) and he needs 'him time'. Me too buddy - which I don't get. I'm lucky to sleep more than 3 hours, get a shower, eat more than a bowl of cereal and poop. I love my husband and I love my son more than anything, but my husband makes it so hard when he's so uncaring and comes home being cruel. Didn't realize I was having a baby to raise alone. -rant over-