People tell me to put my hatred aside and my feelings and emotions aside and to do what is best for my daughter when it comes to her "father". And, Y'know what? I have. I don't use my feelings as the ultimate determining factor. What I do use is his personality, his behavior, his words and actions towards my daughter, etc. I haven't used my hatred to make my decision to have him not be in her life. I chose to do what was best for her to have her not have to deal with the drama and pain and idiocy that is him and his family. I don't want her growing up wondering if she'll get to see him today or if he'll be too busy and needing alone time again to see her. I don't want her wondering why daddy looks at her like she's a monster, why he tells people she's not his and he has no relation to her. I don't want her growing up around drugs and alcohol and psychotic/abusive actions feeling it's okay and normal. I don't want her to feel heartbreak that young. I don't want her to feel like she's not worthy of love because he's an ass. THAT, my Preggie friends, is why he won't be in her life. Not because I hate him and want him to suffer. Not because I dislike him and his family. Not because he's native. Not because of anything except his actions so far towards her and his destructive ways. That is why.