I have never felt put down or sad about my choices as a mother (c-section, formula feeding, pro vaccines) from anyone other than myself. Nobody has said anything to me that is hateful or mean about anything pertaining to that. People say "stop the mommy wars" when I'm really not sure if there are any.. As far as important decisions goes. I think the more important thing to remind mothers is that they did the best they could, and they should stop beating themselves up for it. (I'm very guilty of this too.)
All mothers should know that.