fiona01
brianna
my fiances family wants to throw a baby shower for me and I was cool with it until I found out that they want to do it AFTER the baby is born.. I really don't want to do that.. I don't want a bunch of people around my newborn everyone is gonna wanna touch him and hold him and all those kids aroumd and I'm just not feeling it.. my family thinks that I don't need a shower because I just had one not even 2 years ago when my daughter was born. we pretty much have everything that we need other then a crib mattress and we could use some more clothes but other then that we really don't Need anything. I don't know what to do and of course my fiance is not being any help whatsoever I don't know what I should do.. anyone?
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@twinscomingsoon,
if it ends up still going on I'll leave the baby with my mother that's a good idea to not bring the baby I didn't think about that.
illntry to talk to her and see what happens hopefully they understand! @hermommy thank you!:)
My mother in law is trying to do the same thing. I had to tell my husband to tell her the babies are coming because if they are premature they will be in the hospital for a while and after that I just want my time with them. Not to mention I know 1% of the people she is inviting so I don't want a bunch of strangers passing them around like a party favor. You jut have to let them know you aren't comfortable and the baby isn't coming. It's not about being snobby or ungrateful you have to look out for the safety and health of your child and who knows what people carry on their hands or when they try and kiss them.
@fiona01 hmmmmm, maybe throw the idea of a diaper party, of you feel its not necessary girl trust your instincts maybe ask for something small? :) I totally understand the way you feel because I feel the same except my issue is people trying to come to the hospital with their 2/7 year olds😩 maybe just talk to him mom like bring it up as a convo see how she feels test the waters then say what you feel make sure to tell them how much you appreciate them you'll do fine:)
yeah it does and I loved the last baby shower I had it was so fun! I just feel this time its not really nessecary you know? not to sound ungrateful or anything I just don't want all the people around a newborn. but I'll try to talk to them.and see I just don't wanna come off as snobby or ungrateful towards them . @hermommy
@fiona01 just let the know nicely the things you need you have to have before baby is born<3 there is a nice way to say it girl just nonchalantly break down to his mom so she sees your genuine about the situation that it truely does scare you having that many people around a new baby. Baby showers are suppose to be fun with the baby stil in the tummy so every one can fawn over you that's like your last horaah for baby without baby if that makes any sense
I don't want to be mean about it to them though. I love his side but his dad has 6 small children and that makes me nervous . I'm not comfortable with it but I know my so won't say anything to his family either and I would be the one who has to do it. :/ @hermommy
yeah, no girl..... Talk to them and see if they will do it before. Remind them this is your baby and their immune systems are not strong enough to be around that many people:/