my fiances family wants to throw a baby shower for me and I was cool with it until I found out that they want to do it AFTER the baby is born.. I really don't want to do that.. I don't want a bunch of people around my newborn everyone is gonna wanna touch him and hold him and all those kids aroumd and I'm just not feeling it.. my family thinks that I don't need a shower because I just had one not even 2 years ago when my daughter was born. we pretty much have everything that we need other then a crib mattress and we could use some more clothes but other then that we really don't Need anything. I don't know what to do and of course my fiance is not being any help whatsoever I don't know what I should do.. anyone?