it is NOT abnormal to have a gender reveal baby shower. I've heard and seen so many mamas do them. these days, it's incredibly easy to find gender neutral stuff (My bf and I have been going around baby stores and know this for a fact). For our shower, we have also asked guests that if they do bring gifts, we'd appreciate diapers and gift cards. we plan on buying the big items anyways, and have for the most part already. So to hear other mama's call me stupid to reveal at a shower? Learn some respect. What happened to, "Do you Mama, don't listen to what others have to say!"