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Stephanie
Anyone use behavior charts?
Like they earn a sticker for certain tasks & good behavior and then at the end of the week they pick a prize?
I feel like some of my kids need some motivation. 😄
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Like they earn a sticker for certain tasks & good behavior and then at the end of the week they pick a prize?
I feel like some of my kids need some motivation. 😄
Did it help with your sanity? Did you feel like you could trust them enough to go to the bathtoom and leave them alone? Leave them in one room while you washed a dish? Just Asking For A Friend....
Now it's a weekend, don't believe everything you read ladies!
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I use one. It has been very successful. Lots of positive reinforcement and praise when he can add a sticker to the chart. And then he gets excited to be able to pick something out when the chart is filled. It helped us with some of the big behaviors that drove me crazy lol.
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We use one for my oldest and it’s been a great success. We get red stars and green stars. Red = bad and green = good. I’ll send some links in a bit, but the whole premiss is that we make red and green choices. If he has so many red stars at the end of the day, there’s consequences. We tried rewards at first but he responds better to loosing an activity versus gaining one. That being said, if he had all green stars for the day, that is rewarded.
And yes, I feel comfortable with my 4 year old being in a separate room from me and have for a while. His personality is very chill and his sensory issues have meant he’s never put anything in his mouth he shouldn’t as a younger kid. He’s content to sit and play alone without getting into anything naughty. Doors are always open though so I can hear him.
Please, do send them when you get a chance. I was trying to think of consequences for a 4 year old but that was hard for me.
@scidg3,
The biggest consequence is no TV with daddy before bed. Smaller ones are not earning all his chocolates for the day or ending an activity early. If he chases the cats, it’s an automatic few minutes in his room (more or less this gives the cats time to hide and a chance to redirect my son). Rewards are having a picnic in the living room for dinner, playing a video game with my husband (he loves Mario and Sonic), or earning a bigger reward. The rewards have always been less enticing for him.
Here’s our red and green choices and star chart:
Red & Green Choices, can also look in Pinterest and Teachers Pay Teachers for ideas
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Star Chart
Blueprint Mart Chore Chart, Behavior Chart, Responsibility Chart, Reward Chart | Magnetic Reward System | Accommodate Up to 3 Kids ссылка
I have been considering doing this for my 2 year old. We definitely need some help listening. I wonder if she’s to young
D-FantiX Magnetic Responsibility Chart, Chore Chart for Multiple Kids, My Star Reward Chart Daily Routine Good Behavior Charts Dry Erasable for Toddlers at Home ссылка
Game changer
I kept ours very loose to start so that I can use it as needed. Certain things she knows will get her a sticker but sometimes I need the flexibility to be able to add my own criteria. “Let’s wash this cut and change the band aid and you can get a good girl sticker”
Plan to make it more detailed down the line
Oh thats a nice way to introduce!
@scidg3, I have a very strong willed one though so there’s still plenty of “I don’t want a sticker”. I have no shame in my bribe game when it helps. She knows if she gets in pjs, brushes her teeth and washes up without a fit she gets a sticker so when she’s pulled that off she’ll run out to the kitchen all excited to add her sticker.
@ltee oh man I could see my daughter in the heart of the moment saying that but for him ahhhh I hope not! Lol once he sees his sister's maybe that will help.
This is our current one. I’m going to change it up once it’s filled though. I need to add something about not chasing the cats 😅
That first one tho!👂TRUTH! I might be staying up tonight and starting. How does it work, like if he doesn't fill up the boxes that are missing stickers does he get a prize? How many warnings do you give before taking it away?
@scidg3, He has to fill his whole chart to get a prize. If he doesn’t earn a sticker in one spot for a day then it gets filled the next day, if he earns it. Sometimes (most times) it takes longer than 4 days to fill the whole chart. If he fills one section sooner than the others then I just double up stickers in those boxes as he keeps earning them. (I hope that makes sense?)
During the day I will remind him if he’s having trouble. “Oh! It doesn’t look like you’re using your listening ears. Remember we’re working on earning a robot. Let’s listen so we can get our listening sticker.” I don’t really have a set amount but just gauge the day in general at night when we sit down to do the stickers. If he’s definitely not going to earn one of the stickers, I don’t tell him that midday because then he has no incentive or reason to keep trying in that area.
We sit down before bed each night and go through each behavior. If he didn’t earn a sticker in an area, then I tell him that and remind him why. “Hmm, we didn’t earn our cleaning toys sticker today. Remember how after lunch you didn’t help mommy clean up the blocks and you yelled? We’ll try again tomorrow!” Always a positive tone but also letting him know specifically why he didn’t earn it.
I hope that helps. Sorry to be so wordy. I’m very passionate about this type of thing & it’s something that I do often in my line of work!
@ekko okay! No way! I love the detail, more the merrier! Thank you! I was thinking I needed to do a week but this way makes more sense, not so it needs to happen by this date or else you don't get a prize. I like go until you fill it for him that makes more sense cause he is not about those time lines! Lol
I use one. It has been very successful. Lots of positive reinforcement and praise when he can add a sticker to the chart. And then he gets excited to be able to pick something out when the chart is filled. It helped us with some of the big behaviors that drove me crazy lol.
Oh man! The big ones would be the best to get under wraps. My son thinks he is grown and I'm like no, you're 4. He is very strong willed. I have 2 that are very strong willed yet completely different. I'm starting to lose my marbles!
At 4 I couldn't trust her for one second! Lol
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