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AliciaNoelle
My husband and I have our niece staying with us she is 13 and her parents are working so we agreed to take her so she’s not alone at home during this pandemic. Today she asked me if she could masturbate I told her yes? I didn’t know what to say! But I talked with my husband and he’s upset because she sleeps in the room with our girls and he doesn’t want her doing anything while the girls are sleeping or in the room with them. I have no idea on what to do like should I have told her no? It caught me completely off guard. I didn’t even wanna tell my husband because I figured she didn’t want him to know but it’s his niece mine by marriage. He’s not gonna say anything to her because I told him not to considering she came to me with it. But I feel like he has a point? Should I move the girls out of the room and allow them to sleep with us until she goes home so that they don’t see anything? I feel bad I don’t want her to be uncomfortable or how should I talk to her? He feels like she shouldn’t be doing it and he wants to tell his sister but I feel like it’s not his place. Am I wrong for wanting to keep it from her parents?
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xmoonxkissedx

You should have a more in depth conversation with her and possibly if it makes you and your DH more comfortable move the girls into your room.

IMO- I find it odd she asked. She obviously knows what it means to do such a thing, and maybe its just me. But it seems like she doesnt understand it is a private thing, otherwise if she did, she wouldnt have asked.

Good luck!

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lareina_kk

Wait what???? 13....masterbate? Idk. Definitely talk more with her about it.

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mybabybear

I would tell her to do it in the shower and maybe talk to the parents to make sure no boundaries were crossed.

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householdceo

It's her body and it's a natural. It actually surprises me she asked if she could lol. Id have a talk with her and tell her not to with your girls in the room. Obviously she confined in you because you maybe she looks up to you. Tell her only in a shower or something when she's alone. Or tell her her to wait till she's back home and talks to her mother. My son will do it and he's 10. Only in his room alone with the door locked.

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mamaxofxtwo

IMO it’s her body and she does what she wants regardless... she could of easily not have told u and did it every night with ur kids in the room.. which is not good so its good that she mentioned it bkz u probably didn’t even have that in ur mind but I would of told her . It’s ur body but to keep it private and do that when she’s in the bathroom or something and never do it around your children whether they are asleep or not ..

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mommakaylax3

I would definitely bring it up to her mom. Also I would of never said yes to allowing her to masturbate knowing she’s sleeping in the same room as your kids and secondly i would not feel comfortable with her doing it in your household. There is always a time and place for that and clearly it’s not the best time. On a side note masturbating at 13 gosh I remember not even thinking of sex till like 16 lol 😳 this world just keeps getting younger and younger

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dope.mom

I would have told her that, that would be the type of conversation to have with her parents. I would have felt uncomfortable answering that especially because it's not my child so I wouldn't want to say the wrong thing.

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xmoonxkissedx

You should have a more in depth conversation with her and possibly if it makes you and your DH more comfortable move the girls into your room.

IMO- I find it odd she asked. She obviously knows what it means to do such a thing, and maybe its just me. But it seems like she doesnt understand it is a private thing, otherwise if she did, she wouldnt have asked.

Good luck!

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alicianoelle32

@massgirl, I don’t think she was messing around she seemed very serious. I plan on having a talk with her once she finishes her homework.

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householdceo

Same im surprised she asked

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massgirl

@alicianoelle32 that's interesting. Definitely bring it up with her mother. You shouldn't have to move your girls around because she's there either. Just have her mother tell her that it's not appropriate to do in some else's house.

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jenx

I think she needs to have alone time at her age. Are her parents easy to talk to?. My concern is people making her feel bad about it. If it was a 13 year old boy, no one would bat an eye, you know? It's cool she was comfortable mentioning it to you.

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alicianoelle32

Exactly and that’s what I feel like he’ll do if he mentions it to her or her parents. Her mom is very nice and they have a great relationship from what I’ve seen. However I’m not sure if it’s something she talks to her mother or parents about. Should I ask her if she wants the girls moved for alone time or should I just do it? I just don’t want her to interpret it wrong. The last thing I wanna do is make her feel uncomfortable or bad about it.

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jenx

@alicianoelle32 I would ask her of she would like the girls moved. Just so she doesn't feel like you think she is a creep or being punished. She may like having the company but have a place and time for alone time.

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tittysprinkles

I'd say yes but if you are alone or in the bathroom. It's natural to explore your body but only in privet

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imacat

Idk that’s a hard one. I would say yes but do it when you’re alone, like when you’re taking a bath.

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