@mommy79107, if he's lying to you then you have every right to be questionable! But if you can't trust him at all (I never encourage splitting unless it's physical abuse or continuous cheating) esp with kids involved because it's very hard sharing kids! then maybe it's time for counseling and if he doesn't want it then you have some decisions to make if he makes no changes. Relationships are hard! But you can't endure lying. If he has nothing to hide he won't lie. Try talking to him and see if he's lying because he's a jerk of if he's afraid you're going to blow up over the truth. But let him answer you before giving him an option. Where is he now?

@morganmommy79,

he has a bad habit of lying where he is & then I have to find out I've gone to crazy already I don't wanna be this person no more I don't know who to turn to I lost friends who don't talk to me , I feel alone he makes me feel like I'm just physco for no reason when he does stuff to me to make me mad he will ignore my calls so he won't hear me b***h at him if he's taking a long time to come home he's back & forth from the house to his parents says hes done then comes back to me or text me saying he missies me yet says I'm this & that if I get on him so much he shouldn't come back then he hurt me real bad the things he did people would always say how in the hell you stay that long when we fight to he always says I'm the dumb one who stay .. I don't know any more all I know is I don't know how to move forward I gave up a lot of good guys for him to end up being the one to hurt me & I ended up getting two kids from him even pregnant he gave me bullshit

@mommy79107, this is when you come to us and vent rather than doing it to him. Just ask him where's he going and trust what he says, you'll find out if he lied or not. I KNOW ITS HARD. It is for me anyway because of my past with my ex but like I said, he should be an open book with you and if he is then give him a chance otherwise he'll stay gone. It's never easy when you've been hurt but you start over for a reason. Has he done anything recently? Is he open with you?

@morganmommy79, I try so hard we go into it just awhile ago & it was cause he wanted to go somewhere & right away I'm thinking the worse so I end up making us fight now we don't even wanna be around each other I get so mad I go at him & I need to stop cause one day I'm gonna pick the wrong day & he's gonna end up fighting back when he don't even wanna fight with me

@mommy79107, I'm REALLY bad about living in the past BUT I'm learning each day to move on. My husband hasn't even cheated on me. My ex did things and I brought that baggage into this marriage so I don't really trust anyone. My ex damaged me and I don't give my husband a chance because of it. I was always asking him questions about who he's texting, where he was, what he did, what he thought... It still bothers me because I simply don't trust the male mind. Anyway, I have found that even though it's hard to "ignore" things, it's much easier when you keep yourself busy. And if he's an open book with you (and he should be if he previously hurt you) then you have to make yourself trust him and talk to him about triggers that set u off into overthinking. My husband knows me inside and out because I let him know what bothers me and we talk about it when something arises. You'll always have triggers, always have pop ups of reminders but it's up to you to push it out if your mind and think on better things. Try thinking of things that he does now that are positive rather than what he used to do that was negative. I know how u feel. It's hard. Stay strong! 😊

It is but we have to try 😣 we won't move on from one day to another it takes time and he needs to understand that also because it's a big deal what they cause

I don't know how to move forward its so hard @wandal24

Me too ☹️ I try not to think of it but when I do I just tell him am in a bad mood and he leaves me alone. I hate arguing & since I want to change and be fine with him I try avoiding the conversation about it. It's all in our head we'll never get over it as much as we try to.

@wandal24, yes I'm going on 4 years with him the first year was rough he hurt me before we had kids together then I got pregnant & dated someone while I was living with him how he did it I don't know he cheated on me with multiple girls & it hurt cause I was there just stupid cooking for him washing his clothes making his breakfast for work in the morning I did it all , after I had his first kid with him I changed I became a real B***h towards him I stop everything I stop cooking I didn't do nothing for him I feel bad though all I want us for to be happy he doesn't give me no reason no more to him cheating he's changed a lot since I had his first kid & 2nd when he met me I already had a kid he takes care of her like she's his to I try to be nice & do stuff but I think of all the bullish** he did to me I am so scared to let my guard down again & he hurt me again its already been awhile since he hurt me but it stays in my head

I was the same honestly I would just randomly bring it up and argue and I'd end up crying out of anger but we sat down and talked about it because till this day he hasn't given me any reason to why I should bring it up and all he's changed for better & I hit him a couple times also and I've felt bad he never leaves me and he's always trying to fix things even when it's my fault. I decided to stop & move on and treat him right and communicate more for the better of our relationship it takes time I guess & it's not easy especially after you were hurt

@mamix3_,

see instead of him being violent its me I hit him cause I'm so mad I really never got over the past he always tells me I'm the only one that he made mistakes that he will never do that to ME again cause he seen what it did to his family I've left him when I was pregnant to but he never gives up on me he always would come back to me I just wanna be happy with us

yea i used to often. he hurt me where he had another child outside of our marriage and denied me often. at first i gave up and let him go then forgave and thought i could accept said child and not let it hurt me but i couldn't it became violent to the point where he would put his hands on me. i left for a lil bit and came back to face our problems because we never spoke just yelled and fought and since its been more peaceful

I'm so sorry for your loss , I do talk to him I repeat myself all the time then I make myself mad when I bring it up all the time I'm constantly thinking he's cheating when I know he's not he don't go out or put a lock on his phone like back then , he did me wrong both my pregnancy with my daughters it's just hard I have so much time on my hands all I do is think over think I don't know how to let go & forgive him