From celebrities to real life moms, our bodies post-baby are often a point of great discussion and it usually comes with a solid dose of mom shaming.
I have three kids, two of which came at one time, so incubating those cuties included some serious growth. What I know is that it took me many months to get to that point, so I definitely tried to give myself some grace when it came to getting back to ‘normal’ – whatever that looks like after having babies.
However, at the time, that didn’t stop me from looking in the mirror and wishing away my tummy and willing it to go away as quickly as possible.
It’s hard not to think like that when you see the expectations that are set by the media and otherwise. Logically, I knew that it would take time to recover and see weight loss, but it didn’t stop the harsh inner dialogue.
Why on Earth are we, as new mothers, expected to bounce back from birth like it didn’t take us up to ten months to gain the weight and stretch our body out to carry one, or in my case two human beings?
And let’s be real, even if I happened to have a personal trainer on speed dial, why would I want to be working out after giving birth to two babies via emergency c-section?
Because that happens to be what I, and many other mothers live through.
How many of you have birthed a near 9-lb human out of your vagina after 31-hours of labor? Raises hand.
If you are man, put your hand down.
Which leads me to my next point.
If you are a mom (or woman who is not observant) that happens upon another woman with her (obvious) newborn, back off while she is walking through Target, she is not interested in your ”ItWorks” fat loss program.
For. The. Love.
It is not your place to ‘help’ us get back to our pre-baby selves.
We’re good, thanks.
If you are a twenty-something on a beach in Hawaii, how about you let other women sunbathe and enjoy their quiet time without your judgement on how they look in a bikini.
Consider the fact that they are a woman too, possibly a mother, and saying these things within earshot is not only despicable, but, there are better things you can do with your time…like find your soul.
New moms should be proud of the reason their bodies have changed so much. It is nothing short of amazing.
You don’t think we know that we don’t look like we used to?
You don’t think we feel like we went through hell after giving birth?
No birth is simple and easy and we shouldn’t be ashamed of our bodies after the fact. Period.Moms go through a lot carrying and birthing their children. We don't need anyone to tell us we look different or less than our younger, firmer selves. What we really needed is to be uplifted, encouraged and for fellow women to be kind.Click To Tweet
Moms go through a lot carrying and birthing their children. We don’t need anyone to tell us we look different or less than our younger, firmer selves. What we really needed is to be uplifted, encouraged and for fellow women to be kind.
It’s time to stop shaming other women period – but can we just agree that we especially need to give moms some grace?
I don’t know who said it, but it’s really good advice, “shut the hole that makes the words.” Or, is it “If you don’t have anything nice to say…”
That first one might have been from my kids.
Enough is enough.
#StopMomShaming – let’s encourage moms to be proud and love the bod they have post baby. They carried and nurtured a human! That’s no small feat.
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